Kutshanje ndithathe inxaxheba kutshintshiselwano olufutshane lwe-imeyile malunga “nelungelo” kwaye indenze ndacinga ukuba ingxoxo ebanzi ingangqineka ifanelekile.
Ngaba ukusebenzisa igama elithi "ilungelo elimhlophe," "ilungelo lobudoda," kunye "nelungelo lodidi" kunceda ukuthintela indlela esiqonda ngayo, esinxibelelana ngayo, kwaye ekugqibeleni sisebenze ukoyisa ubuhlanga, ucalucalulo ngokwesini, kunye nocalucalulo?
Ingqikelelo kufuneka inike igama kwizinto ezibalulekileyo kunye nobudlelwane ukutsalela ingqalelo kunye nokuququzelela unxibelelwano olucacileyo malunga nezo zinto kunye nobudlelwane. Amatshantliziyo afuna ukuqonda ihlabathi ukuze alitshintshe. Ilungelo elilodwa lengqiqo kufuneka lalathe kwiziganeko ezifuna ingqwalasela yobutshantliziyo ngendlela esinceda ukuba sixoxe ngezo ziganeko ngaphandle kokubhideka.
Ukufumana ilungelo, izigigaba zisuka kwelinye icandelo ukuya kwelinye, iiyantlukwano ezicinezelayo kwimeko, ukufikelela, izinto eziphathekayo, ukhetho, njl. njl. Zeziphi izakhiwo ezinyanzelisayo? Kutheni abantu bexhathisa, bexhasa, okanye bangazihoyi ezo zakhiwo? Ukuba abo baneemeko ezingcono kufuneka balahlekelwe zizo? Ukuba abo baneemeko ezimbi kufuneka bazuze ngcono? Ukuba izakhiwo ezinyanzelisa loo mahluko kufuneka zitshintshwe kwaye, ukuba kunjalo, ngantoni? Kwaye ngaba abaphembeleli bentshukumo banokusebenza njani ngokufanelekileyo ukufikelela kwinjongo efunwayo ngokujongana ngendlela eyakhayo kwabo baxhamlayo okanye ababandezelekayo kwiimeko ezimbi?
Kulungile, zeziphi iiyantlukwano ezigxininiswa namabinzana athi, ilungelo elimhlophe, ilungelo lobudoda, okanye ilungelo lodidi, kwaye ukubiza loo mahluko ngamalungelo kuyiphucula njani imizamo yethu yokuwulungisa ngeendlela eziya kuthi zibe nethemba lotshintsho?
Umzekelo, ndiyazibuza, xa sisonke, ingaba kuluncedo ukuthi, ukungalumki kakhulu malunga namapolisa okanye ukungajongani nemiqobo xa uzama ukuboleka imali, njl.njl., ngamalungelo amhlophe, okanye ukungadlwengulwa okanye ukuba ngumthwalo. kunye noxanduva olugqithisileyo lwekhaya, njl., ngamalungelo angamadoda, okanye ukungazikhathazi malunga nokuhlangabezana namatyala okanye ukuthobela abaphathi, njl.njl., ngamalungelo eklasi?
Oku kusetyenziswa kwelungelo kuthetha ntoni kwaye kuxhokonxa ntoni? Ucinga ukuba kuthetha ukuthini umphulaphuli ova ikhwelo lokuba ancame ilungelo lakhe? Ngaba kukuba nabo bafanele banyamezele imida eyahlukahlukeneyo kunokuba kungabikho nabani na ofanele abandezeleke? Ndicinga ukuba akukho mntu unokuthetha oko, kodwa ngaba abantu "bayayiva" loo nto? Yaye ngaba iminxeba yokulahla amalungelo amhlophe, amadoda, okanye udidi, ebonakala ngathi linyathelo lomntu ngamnye, maxa wambi iyawaphazamisa amaziko anyanzelisa ingcinezelo yobuhlanga, isini nodidi?
Ndicinga ukuba injongo yokusebenzisa igama inyhweba kukuqaqambisa kwaye ndinike ingqwalaselo kumandla abangela abantu abamhlophe, amadoda, kunye/okanye amalungu eeklasi azive echasene nobuhlanga, ubufazi, kwaye ethanda ukungakhathalelwa. abaziboni zonke iindlela ezi ngcinezelo zibonakala ngazo kuquka nendlela abaziphatha ngayo okanye iinkolelo zabo. Nangona kunjalo, ngaphandle kwaloo njongo, ngaba usetyenziso lwangoku luneziphumo eziyingozi okanye ngaba luhlala luqaqambisa ukuba zeziphi iimfuno eziqaqambisayo ngendlela elungiselela ngokufanelekileyo ukujongana nezinto ezifuna ukuhoywa?
Nokuba nje ukuvuma iyantlukwano ukuba ungabathinteli, kukuyalela umntu ukuba ancame ilungelo labo elimhlophe, eliyindoda, okanye lodidi yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokubenza bavume ukuba abo babandezelekayo ngokobuhlanga, ngokwesini, kunye nocalucalulo banqatshelwe zonke iintlobo zezinto ezinokuthi zenzeke. abo bangakhathazwanga lucalucalulo, ucalucalulo ngokwesini, nokucalulana bayakonwabela? Yaye, enoba kwenzeka ntoni, abo banelungelo bafanele bancame ntoni ukuze bancame elo lungelo? Ngokuphathelele oko, ngaba ukukhangela kunye nokubiza abaphembeleli bamalungelo abo bafuna ukubona into ekufuneka yenziwe?
Ewe sonke sinomthwalo, kodwa ngaba abantu abaninzi sele beqonda ukuba kukho iiyantlukwano ezinkulu ezingekho sikweni kwiimeko—okanye mhlawumbi bayazi ukuba kukho iiyantlukwano ezingekho sikweni kodwa baziva bephelelwe ngamathemba ngokuzichaphazela ngokobuqu—okanye mhlawumbi bayazi ukuba kukho iyantlukwano kodwa bathi ifanelekile?
Isenokuba andiyazi ukuba igama elithi inyhweba lithetha ukuthini, kodwa ngaba abo baxelelwa ukuba banenyhweba bayayazi le nto bayixelelwayo? Ngaba into elungileyo lilungelo ukuba ubani unayo kodwa abanye abanayo? Okanye ukuba isithili sovoto sinayo loo nto kodwa elinye icandelo lovoto alinayo? Kuyo nayiphi na imeko, nangona kunjalo, asiyiyo eyona nto kufuneka idluliselwe into abanye abangenayo ekufuneka bonke babenayo, kutheni kunjalo, kwaye ngakumbi indlela yokufuna ngcono?
Ukuba ndinomsebenzi kwaye awunawo. Ngaba ndinelungelo elo? Kutheni kucetyiswa ukuba kusetyenziswe igama ilungelo elimhlophe, yithi, njengendlela yokwenza abantu abamhlophe babone iiyantlukwano ezicinezelayo ezingafunekiyo xa besebenzisa lo mbono kwenza ukuba abanye abantu bazive bexelelwa ukuba bangabinawo la “malungelo” athi Inyaniso kukuba wonke umntu ufanele ukuba, okanye ngaphezulu, ukuba ingxaki ubukhulu becala zizimo zengqondo zomntu hayi iingcinezelo zamaziko?
Ukuba abasebenzi abangamalungu emanyano abaqhankqalazi befuna ingeniso ethe chatha lo gama bezama ukuqhubela phambili bonke abantu abasebenza nabo, kunye nabo bonke abanye abasebenzi, kwaye wonke umntu obandezelekayo nakuphi na ukukhanyelwa kwengcinezelo kuba ukufumana ngaphezulu kwabasebenzi kuya kubashiya benenyhweba engakumbi. ? Ndicinga ukuba abo basebenzisa igama lelungelo ayithethi loo nto, kodwa ngaba le nto bayenzayo bathetha ukuyifikelela-kwaye ingaba igxile kuyo yonke into efuna ukuhoywa? Ukuba kunjalo, kuhle kakhulu. Kodwa ukuba akunjalo, ngaba akuyongxaki leyo?
Ukuba sithi, ubuhlanga buwatyumza amathuba ngoko ke kufuneka silwe nawo sonke, kubandakanywa nokungabi nobuhlanga kwaye ngokukodwa singenzi ukunyanzelisa ubuhlanga kwaye endaweni yoko senze ukuba siloyise, kutheni kungekho nto ingcono kunokuba sibonakala ngathi, heyi, abelungu. , kufuneka ulahle ilungelo lakho elimhlophe lokuziva ukhuselekile esitratweni ukuze ukwazi ukuqonda ngokufanelekileyo ubuhlanga, ukuze uncede ukulahla? Ngaba intsingiselo ekujoliswe kuyo icacile inikwe ukuba uninzi lwezinto esizibiza ngokuba lilungelo zizinto wonke umntu afanele ukuba nazo, hayi izinto ekungekho mntu kufuneka abe nazo? Ngaba ukubiza amalungelo kusebenza njengeqhinga lokunciphisa ingcinezelo? Ngaba isalatha kwizakhiwo ezicinezelayo? Ukwakha umanyano?
Nazi iziphumo ezimbini ezilula zokusebenzisa inyhweba yelungelo endilifumanayo elinokuba libi, kwaye elesithathu lichubekile ngakumbi, kodwa ndicinga nokuba libi.
- Kumava am, xa amatsha ntliziyo esebenzisa igama elithi “inyhweba” ukuthetha ngobudlelwane bengcinezelo, le ngcamango idla ngokugxila kwiimpawu zobuntu ezahlukeneyo de kukhutshelwe ngaphandle ukujongana neempawu zeziko. Oku ke kuthetha ukuba inkqubela phambili ngumba weempawu zomntu, hayi utshintsho lweziko.
- Phezu kwazo nje iinjongo ezintle zabantu abasebenzisa le ngcamango, kum kubonakala ngathi abaninzi abaxelelwa ukuba banelungelo lobudoda, ilungelo labamhlophe, okanye ilungelo lodidi baziva bebizelwe ukuba nento engafanele ukuba nabani na—yaye ngenxa yokuba ukuba, kungakhathaliseki izenzo kunye neenkolelo zabo, bangumxhasi osebenzayo wobuhlanga, ubuhlanga, okanye udidi. Ngakumbi xa besithi hayi, ndiyakholelwa ukuba uvavanyo lwabo aluyomfuneko kwaye mhlawumbi ayikuko nje ukuzithethelela, kodwa endaweni yoko luluvo olufanelekileyo lokuba amagama abawevayo kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ikwathetha ithoni yokuzimasa. Emva koko, xa umxholo owongezelelweyo unikelwe ukuchaza kanye ukuba ngawaphi amalungelo abo kwaye kutheni ekhona, nto leyo ngamanye amaxesha ingenzeki, abantu abaxelelwa ukuba bazilahle izinto abacinga ukuba bona kunye nomntu wonke bafanele ukuba nazo njengamalungelo, bazive ngathi umbono wokulahla. izinto ezinjalo azinangqiqo. Isibongozo sokwenza njalo kaninzi sihlambalaza kwaye soyike, kodwa asinxibelelani.
- Ukwazi ukuba ukuzikhusela yinto enokwenzeka, kwaye uziva uphambili ekufumaneni kwaye "ubize" ilungelo, kwaye emva koko ukuchasa oko kubonakala ngathi lukhuselo lwelungelo, kubonakala kum ukuba amaxesha amaninzi abantu besabela kumntu ongavumelaniyo nemeko yabo. iimbono malunga nento (umzekelo, malunga nokuba luncedo kwelungelo lengcinga) ngokucinga ukuba isizathu sokuba umntu angavumelani asikokuba ummangaleli unenkxalabo enyanisekileyo, kodwa ngenxa yokuba ekhusela ilungelo elilodwa, okanye ubuncinane ebonakalisa ucalucalulo oluvela kwilungelo elilodwa. . Kwaye kunjalo, ngelixa inokuba njalo, nayo isenokungabi njalo.
Ezi nkxalabo zintathu ngokuqinisekileyo azithethi nto malunga neenjongo zomntu othile zokusebenzisa ingqiqo yelungelo okanye ukuqonda kwabo ingcinezelo. Ayitsho ukuba wonke umntu ojonge inyhweba ujonge ukugxeka okanye ukoyikisa, okanye ukungawahoyi amaziko, okanye ukungeva ukungavisisani okunyanisekileyo. Kodwa icebisa ukuba ezi zinokuba ziziphumo eziqhelekileyo kakhulu ezakhelwe ekusebenziseni ilungelo lengqiqo kumaxesha angoku.
Ewe, kufuneka siqonde ukuba bonke abantu baneemeko ezingcono okanye ezimbi kuluntu, kodwa ngaba oko kuthetha ukuba kufuneka siye kwindawo yokusebenzela, eyunivesithi, iCawe, ikhaya, okanye nantoni na, sidibane nabantu, kwaye sibonakale sithi heyi, wena apho, phakamisa ilungelo lakho (abantu abangaziyo nokuba banalo, okanye nokuba liyintoni na), okanye ngaba oko kuthetha ukuba endaweni yoko kufuneka sithethe ngokucacileyo, sidinga indawo yokusebenzela, iyunivesithi, iCawe, ikhaya, okanye nantoni na apho wonke umntu anayo ukulandela iimeko ezintle kwaye siqhubele phambili sithi ukuze sifezekise oko kufuneka sichase kwaye sithathe indawo yamaziko kunye neenkolelo zocalulo ngokwesini, ubuhlanga, nocalucalulo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo kufundiswa ukuba amadoda amhlophe, odidi lomnxibelelanisi anenxaxheba ekufuneni ukupoo-pooh ilungelo lengqiqo, nokuba i-stake yeyengqondo okanye imathiriyeli okanye zombini. Kwaye ewe, leyo yenye yezinto ezinokutyhala umntu ukuba azive ezi nkxalabo zingasentla, kwaye ewe, amathuba anjalo abalulekile ukuba uwaqonde kwaye uwaqonde. Umzekelo, kuyacingeleka ukuba ngoku ndijongela phantsi ilungelo elilodwa lokukhusela amalungelo am amhlophe, obudoda, okanye odidi, okanye mhlawumbi ngokulunga ngakumbi ngenxa yokungazi okanye umkhwa obangelwa loo malungelo. Kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba mna, kunye nabanye, ngokwenene sinazo ezi nkxalabo.
Umntu oshiywe ixesha elide, umzekelo, unokungavumelani ngokunyanisekileyo malunga nexabiso lelungelo lengqiqo, kwaye ngokunjalo nomntu omhlophe osebenza eklasini, ngamnye kungekhona ngenxa yobuhlanga, ubulili, okanye ukuzikhusela kwiklasi, imikhwa, okanye iinkolelo, kodwa ngenxa yokuba cinga ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba xa umntu exelela omnye umntu ukuba unelungelo elikhethekileyo yaye ufanele alilahle ilungelo analo, loo nto idla ngokuba nemiphumo emibi enokuphetshwa. Ngaba asifanele sifikelele kwisigqibo sokuba ukuzithethelela kuyasebenza xa kukho umntu ongavumelaniyo nathi? Ngaba akufanelanga ukuba siqwalasele ngononophelo umongo wamazwi omntu kwaye singacingeli nje ukuba amazwi abo azizikhuselo nje kwaye angenasizathu?
Masithi umgxeki wokusebenziseka kwelungelo lengqiqo akanalo ixesha lobomi lokuziqhelanisa ebonisa ukuba kunokubakho izizathu ezibambekayo kwaye hayi ubukhulu becala ukhuselo okanye ubuncinci bembono emsebenzini. Noko ke, ngaba asifanele sizihlolisise ngenyameko izinto ezimxhalabisayo size singazihoyi kuba loo mntu eyindoda, emhlophe, okanye engumnxibelelanisi?
Ngaba ukukhangela ilungelo lobuqu nokuzithethelela kobuqu kusenza siphulaphule ngenyameko okanye kusenze sidimaze? Ukunxibelelana nokufumana iziphumo ezilungileyo kuxhomekeke kungekuphela nje kwintsingiselo ecetywayo yamagama omntu ukuba afanelekile kwaye ayasebenza, kodwa nokuba umntu uyadlula na into anenjongo yokuyidlulisela kwiqabane lakhe lencoko kwaye, ngokunjalo, kwabo bava utshintshiselwano. ngaphandle?
Ukuba iidebhithi endizikhankanyileyo ziyenzeka, nokuba zinxamnye neenjongo zabasebenzi, akufuneki ukuba sizame ukuphumeza iinjongo ezixabisekileyo zabantu abasebenzisa ingqiqo yelungelo, kodwa ngaphandle kokuhlupheka kwiidebhithi zokusebenzisa ingqiqo ilungelo?
Kutshintshiselwano lwe-imeyile olwakhuthaza isincoko, kwacetyiswa ukuba ukuzama ukufumana iindlela ezilungileyo, ezisebenzayo zokunxibelelana nabantu ngokuqinisekileyo ziyasebenza kwaye zibalulekile. Kodwa ingcebiso eyongeziweyo yayikukuba ekuzameni ukufumana indlela engcono yokunxibelelana malunga nengcinezelo, kuqala kufuneka uvume ukuba ingqiqo yelungelo elilodwa iluncedo, kwaye ukwenza oko kufuneka uvume ukuba isikhundla sethu siyazisa indlela esicinga ngayo.
Ndicinga ukuba oku kuthetha ukuba uza kuzama ukwenza ngcono kunokusebenzisa ilungelo lokuqonda, okokuqala kufuneka uvume ukuba injongo yokuqonda iyantlukwano ecinezelayo kunye nemithombo yayo, ukuqonda ukuba yintoni oza kuyibuyisela endaweni yayo, nokufunda indlela yokucela umngeni kubo. kubalulekile. Kwaye ewe, ndiyavuma. Ke ngokuqinisekileyo ndiyayigxininisa into yokuba iindima esizidlalayo kunye neemeko zoluntu ekufuneka sizihambile zingapheleli nje ekuncedeni ukwazisa indlela esicinga ngayo kodwa sikwancede ukwazisa ukuba yintoni esinomdla kuyo, imikhwa, umkhethe, kunye neenkolelo zethu. Kodwa ke ngenxa yolo lwazi lubalulekileyo, akufuneki ndijonge indlela ilungelo lengcinga elisetyenziswa ngayo kwaye ndibuze ukuba yindlela elungileyo yokunxibelelana?
Abantu abasebenzisa eli lungelo liphambili, ndiyazi, banike ingxelo yokuba iyaveza ukuqaphela ukuba awuzukufumana uninzi lwabantsundu, i-chicano, okanye abaphembeleli basetyhini abangavumelaniyo nombono wesikhundla kunye nendlela eyibumba ngokunzulu indlela thina. ubone kwaye uqonde ihlabathi, kodwa ukuba uya kufumana amadoda amhlophe akwenzayo, nto leyo abacinga ukuba imnandi. Ngokwahlukileyo koko, ndingabheja ukuba bambalwa kakhulu abantu abamhlophe ngasekhohlo abangavumelaniyo ukuba indima esiyidlalayo kunye nezikhundla esinazo eluntwini azipheleli nje ekuchazeni indlela esicinga ngayo kodwa nezinto esinomdla kuzo, imikhwa, imikhwa yethu, njl.njl. Kwaye ndingabheja ukuba inkoliso yabantu edla ngokungacingi ngokuqhelekileyo ngezinto ezinjalo iya kuthi, yakuva ingcaciso ecacileyo, nayo ivume.
Kwelinye icala, ndingavuma kwakhona ukuba amanye amadoda amhlophe, phakathi kwabanye, awathathi ngqalelo ngokwaneleyo ukuze abone izinto ezahlukeneyo eziyinyani malunga nobuhlanga, isini, okanye udidi, kuquka neembono zabo. Kwaye ndingavuma ukuba naloo nto ibalulekile ukuyiqonda. Kodwa ke ndingacebisa kwaye ndiyazibuza ukuba abantu abaqhele ukusebenzisa kwaye bahlala besebenzisa ilungelo lokuqonda bayavumelana na, ukuba loo ntsilelo iyinyani nakwamanye amadoda aMnyama okanye amaChicano malunga nesini, okanye kubafazi abathile abamhlophe malunga nobuhlanga, okanye kwabamhlophe, ababhinqileyo. , Abantu abamnyama, okanye abantu baseChicano abasukela okanye abahlala kwizikhundla zeklasi zomququzeleli malunga neklasi?
Ngalo mbandela, ndiyazibuza, ngokuphikisana ngakumbi, ukuba abantu abasoloko besebenzisa ilungelo elilodwa kwaye bakholelwa ngokufanelekileyo iindima esizizalisayo kunye neemeko esidibana nazo zinefuthe kwiimbono zethu kunye neenkolelo zethu, bayavuma ukuba iimeko ezimanyumnyezi kunye nezikhundla abasetyhini, abaNtsundu, iChicanos, kunye abasebenzi ngokufuthi ukunyamezela akubaqinisekisi ngokuzenzekelayo ubulumko bezobupolitika ngazo zonke izinto, nokuba nokuba mhlophe, yindoda, umnxibelelanisi, okanye ubukapitali, okanye kwanabo bonke xa bebonke abukhanyeli bonke ubulumko.
Ngaba sinokuvuma ukuba ezi ziphumo zolu hlobo ziziindlela ezibaluleke kakhulu xa kujongwe iingingqi zovoto xa zizonke, kodwa kananjalo azikho izinto ezingenakuphepheka nakuzo zonke iingingqi zovoto, singasathethi ke kumntu ngamnye kwindawo ethile? Ngaba sinokuvuma ukuba ukufumanisa iinjongo zomntu ngokuqhelekileyo kuntsonkothile kakhulu ukuba ungafikelela kwizigqibo ezikhawulezayo nezingaguquguqukiyo?
Ngoko ke, yintoni eyenza uninzi lwezinto abantu abazibiza ngokuba “ngamalungelo”? Ngaba zihlala njengoko ndicebisa amalungelo nje achazwa ligama elitsha elingaphezulu elithwala ezinye iintsingiselo ezongezelelweyo ezihlala zingancedi? Xa ndijonga imibhalo echaza okanye ndidwelisa amalungelo okanye ndisiva ngegumbi lokufundela, indawo yokusebenza, indlu, okanye ukuncokola ngezinto ezibandakanya ukubiza amalungelo, kum kubonakala ngathi izinto ezibizwa ngokuba ngamalungelo ngokufuthi zizinto esifanele sibe nazo sonke kungekhona izinto ezingenamsebenzi. umntu kufuneka abe nayo.
Ngaphezu koko, abanye abantu abanazo kwaye abanye abanazo kubonakala ngathi, njengoko ndibona uluhlu olunjalo, ubukhulu becala ngenxa yoxinzelelo lwamaziko hayi ngenxa yokuba abantu basukela iingenelo zabo kwaye bazikhanyela kwabanye. Ngaphezu koko, yintoni eyenza uninzi lwethoni kunye nokungeniswa kothethathethwano malunga nelungelo kukwabonakala ngathi kuhlala kuqala okanye kutsaleleka ekuthetheni okanye ukuxelela abantu ngokucacileyo ukuba, xa kuthe kwagqithisa, thula kuba umhlophe, uyindoda, ukuba ngumnxibelelanisi, okanye nawuphi na omnye okanye bobathathu kubathintela ekuqondeni iimeko ngokwaneleyo ukuba bathethe nantoni na ekufanele ukuba baphulaphule bade balilahle ilungelo labo (nokuba oko kuthetha ntoni na).
Ukuphendula ukuba ayinguye wonke umxhasi wokusebenzisa ilungelo elikhethekileyo olisebenzisela ukuzola abantu, okanye nokuba uninzi lwabathetheleli bokusebenzisa ilungelo loluvo abafuni, oko, ndicinga ukuba yinyani. Kodwa andizikhathazi ngeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokusetyenziswa kwale ngcamango, okanye nangamabango ayo anamandla, okanye ngeenjongo zabantu zokuyisebenzisa. Ndixhalabile kuphela malunga nendlela usetyenziso lwengqikelelo oludlala ngayo kwiimeko ezibonakalayo. Ke iinjongo ezilungileyo, iintsingiselo ezilungileyo, kunye nezenzo ezilungileyo ngokungenamkhethe zabaninzi okanye nabo bonke abasebenzisa uluvo lwamalungelo basecaleni kwendawo ukuba abasebenzisi aboneleyo balo mbono bavakala ngathi bazama ukudlulisela kwabo bathi banelungelo. ukuba bathi cwaka.
Ke ngaba izinto ezibizwa ngamalungelo ubukhulu becala zizinto ekufuneka sonke sibe nazo, kwaye ke izinto ezinokuthi zibizwe ngcono ngamalungelo, nangona siqinisekile ukuba abantu abaninzi abanawo ngenxa yenkqubo yenkqubo ekufuneka siyisuse? Apha, umzekelo luluhlu oluhlonitshwa kakhulu lwamalungelo endiwafumeneyo. Kwaye ndiyazibuza, ubukhulu becala ingaba la malungelo achaza iimeko ekungafanelanga ukuba nabani na abe nazo xa ubani engenawo, okanye achaza amalungelo afanele wonke umntu abe nawo?
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Abantu abaninzi abasebenzisa igama ilungelo bakholelwa ukuba ucalucalulo ngokwesini luyinxenye malunga nombono wobudoda kunye nokutyhila iingcamango ezingalunganga zobudoda nobudoda, kodwa kwakhona kuthomalalisa iyantlukwano ngokwesini emsebenzini kunye neendima zeziko ezivelisa ucalucalulo. Ndiyavuma, kodwa nangona kunjalo ndiyazibuza malunga nokusebenza kakuhle kokusebenzisa le ngcinga yelungelo kwindawo yonke njengoko isetyenziswa ngoku. Ngaba oku kungenxa yokuba ndikhusela intswela-bulungisa, endivumayo eneneni ukuba kufuneka ndoyiswe? Okanye ngaba kungenxa yokuba ngelixa abasebenzisi bayo becinga ukuba ukusetyenziswa okusebenzayo kwelungelo lamalungelo kunceda ukoyisa abantu emsebenzini wokulungisa okungekho sikweni, ndinexhala lokuba ukusetyenziswa kwayo okusebenzayo kuhlala kwenza okwahlukileyo? Ukuchonga amalungelo kunokunceda ngokucacileyo ukuba abanye abantu baphila ngcono kwaye ngandlel’ ithile bazuze kuluhlu olucinezelayo lwenzuzo, bagocagoce ukuba kwenzeka njani oku, babonise indlela esichaphazeleka ngayo sonke kwaye ukusa kwinqanaba elithile sonke sinokuba neengcinga nemikhwa enyanzelisa oko sikwenzayo. dela. Kodwa ngaba yonke loo nto inokufezekiswa ngokupheleleyo kodwa ngaphandle kokuzifaka kwiingxaki endizikhankanyileyo ngokusebenzisa ibinzana elithi “ingcinezelo” endaweni yenyhweba kwaye ngokuqala ngokuqaqambisa izakhiwo kwaye emva koko, xa kuluncedo, iimpawu zomntu?
Lahla ilungelo lakho-kaloku, kulungile, kodwa umntu uyenza njani loo nto xa isizathu sinkqubo kwaye amalungelo angamalungelo? Kum kubonakala ngathi kuyinyani kodwa ngokweqhinga akunamsebenzi ukuthetha ukuba oku kubhideka akuyonjongo yommeli. Xa bexelelwa ukuba bafanele balilahle ilungelo abanalo, singasathethi ke xa bexelelwa ukuba bade balilahle ilungelo abanalo, uluvo lwabo alufanele kuhoywa, ngaba oko kuyabothusa abantu ukuba babe nembono ephosakeleyo ngoko kujoliswe kuko?
Ndiyazi ukuba abanye abafundi banokuziva ngeli xesha, malunga nesi sincoko, into efana noMichael, awuvumi ukuba kufanelekile ukuqwalasela indlela enokuba luncedo ngayo kumhlophe, amadoda, okanye amatsha-ntliziyo eklasi yomnxibelelanisi ukuzama ukugxeka umsebenzi. yabasetyhini, abachasi bobuhlanga, kunye nabalwela ukungabikho komgangatho ngokugxeka intetho yelungelo kunye nentsingiselo yalo ethile kunye nokusetyenziswa kwayo?
Ewe, ndiyayenza, kodwa andiqondi ukuba awuvumi na ukuba kulowo uphambili athathe ukhuseleko sisizathu sokuba umntu (abantu) babuze ngelungelo kwaye bagxothe iinkxalabo zabo kukwenza into endiyicebise embindini. Ilungelo elikhethekileyo likhokelela abantu ekwenzeni-oko kukuthi umntu ongavumelaniyo nabo kufuneka enze oko kungekhona ngenxa yovavanyo olunyanisekileyo, kodwa ngenxa yempembelelo yelungelo labo? Ayikuko ukucebisa ukuba ukubuza umbuzo ngelungelo kwenzeka ngenxa yokuba kuluncedo ngokweqhinga ukujongela phantsi umsebenzi wamatsha ntliziyo alwela amalungelo abantu basetyhini kunye nabachasi ubuhlanga uhlobo lokutsiba okungafunekiyo endikuthethayo ndisebenzisa ingqiqo yelungelo edla ngokukhokelela kulo?
Kwakhona ndilindele ukuba abanye abavayo okanye bafunde isiqwenga esinje baya kucinga ukuba kukho omnye umfana omdala omhlophe othi 'uyazi aba bafazi kunye nabantu abamnyama abafumani nje ubuhlanga kunye nobuhlanga.' Kwaye ke ukucinga ngokwabo ukuba ndiyayithanda okanye andithandi, okanye nokuba ilungile okanye hayi, ngobuchule isimo sam asiyonkangeleko entle. Kwaye mhlawumbi ucinge, 'Sihogo, Michael, uthini ukuba uncame ilungelo lakho elimhlophe, eliyindoda, lodidi lomnxibelelanisi, ukunika abachasi bobuhlanga, abachasayo ngokwesini, kunye nabachasayo abachasayo inzuzo yokuthandabuza ukuba bebenegalelo elibonakalayo Lo msebenzi umalunga nengcinezelo yabo?'
Ewe, ngokuqinisekileyo ndiyayiqonda loo mvakalelo, nam. Kwaye ndiyavuma ukuba amazwi am abangela ukuba abantu bandive besithi, 'uyazi aba bafazi kunye nabantu abamnyama abafumani ubuhlanga kunye nobuhlanga,' ke, ewe, kufuneka ndifumanise ukuba ndingawatshintsha njani amazwi am ukuze adlulise ngcono. into endiyithethayo enyanisweni. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ndiyacinga ukuba kubafazi nabantsundu kunye nezinye iingingqi zovoto ezicinezelekileyo ukutyhila ubukhulu becala iimeko zamaziko kodwa kwanobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu kunye nokutshintsha kwengcinezelo yabo, kunye nombono wento emayibe khona endaweni yoko, kunye nokuphonononga ukuba kufuneka sifikelele njani kwinto efanele ukubakho zixabiseke ngokungenakuthelekiswa nanto. izinto zokwenza. Kodwa ekubeni ndicinga ukuphumeza yonke into eyenziwa ngokungeyonjongo ngokusebenzisa ilungelo lengqiqo, ngelixa ndivuma ukuba ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka ndicinge nzulu malunga nendlela amazwi am angenza ngayo nabani na ukuba afunde igalelo lam njengomntu omdala omhlophe esithi 'uyabazi aba bafazi kwaye abantu abamnyama nje musa ukufumana ucalucalulo ngokwesini kunye nobuhlanga, 'kwangaxeshanye, Bendiya kuziva ukuphoxeka ukuba andizange ndicebise kukho esinye isizathu esinokuba kutheni umntu angenza isigqibo rhabaxa enjalo amazwi am. Oko kukuthi, umntu unokuwabona amazwi am njengokuba ethetha into abangayingeniyo nakweyona ndawo ikude yebhola yokuthetha ngenxa yokuba ukugxininisa ilungelo, ukukhangela inyhweba, ukugrumba ilungelo, kunye nokusebenza ukuhlehlisa ilungelo kunotyekelo lokusoloko besenza kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ayithinteli utyekelo oluqhelekileyo lokucinga ukuba isizathu sokuba umntu angavumelani malunga nelungelo asikuko ukuba umchasi uyahluka ngokunyanisekileyo, kodwa ngenxa yokuba umchasi ukhusela ilungelo okanye ukubonakalisa ucalucalulo oluvela kwilungelo mhlawumbi ukuze kucwangciswe ukugxeka umsebenzi wabafazi kunye amatsha ntliziyo achasene nobuhlanga, kwaye ke ngoko akukho mfuneko yokuthathela ingqalelo iinkxalabo zaloo mntu?
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