Enye yeendlela olwathi lwabonisa ngayo ucalucalulo eUnited States kutshanje ngumahluko kwindlela abazali abamhlophe nabazali bebala abasabela ngayo ekubulaweni komfana waseAfrika waseMerika, uMike Brown, lipolisa elimhlophe eFerguson, eMissouri.
Abazali abaninzi bebala bachaza intlungu kunye nomsindo wabo - kungekuphela nje ngenxa yolwaphulo-mthetho lokulahlekelwa nguMike Brown kodwa ngendlela ilahleko ejinga ngayo njengesoyikiso kuye wonke umntwana oMnyama kwaye inyanzela wonke umzali omnyama ukuba alinganise ubuhlobo obusondeleyo kunye noqhagamshelwano lobuzali kunye nabo. ithemba lokwenyani lokuba iya kunqunyulwa bubundlobongela obunobuhlanga. Abazali abamhlophe, kwelinye icala, babonakala bengadibani nenyaniso yelahleko enkulu. Endaweni yoko sagxila kuluhlu lwezinto eziza kwenziwa โ ezinye zazo zineenjongo ezintle, kuquka ukucinga ngendlela esinokuwuphakamisa ngayo umxholo wobuhlanga kubantwana bethu abamhlophe. Kodwa phantse zonke ziye zayigqitha eyona mpendulo ibalulekileyo, kwaye yintlungu leyo. Eyesibini eyona mpendulo ibalulekileyo kukuxhathisa isilingo sokusekela izenzo zethu kukhetho lobuqu. Kuvakala ngathi akufuneki kube nzima kangako, kodwa inkcubeko yonke, kubandakanywa neekholamu zethu zeengcebiso, ihlala isityhala ngaloo ndlela.
Kwaye ubucinga ukuba iikholamu zeengcebiso zabazali bezilungile? Ngokucacileyo, hayi kakhulu - ubuncinci xa kuziwa kugqatso.
Kumama wase-Afrika waseMelika, Stacia L. Brown, iziganeko eFerguson zamshiya evakalelwa kukuba umzali akanakuzinceda. Ejonge intombi yakhe eneminyaka emi-4 ubudala, usichaza kakuhle sonke isithembiso asibonayo kuye, ukanti kwangaxeshanye kufuneka ayamkele indlela enokushenxiswa ngokulula ngayo. Kwiveki ephelileyo kwisixeko sakhe, intombazana eneminyaka emithathu ubudala ibikhona udutyulwe phantsi.
Ecaleni kwesitrato apho umzimba kaMike Brown ulele elangeni elitshisayo kangangeeyure ezine emva koko wakhutshelwa ngokungafanelekanga kwiSUV, abantwana badlala kwinqaba enqabileyo. Bendingekho, kodwa ndeva ngayo kuMfundisi uSekou ngexesha lentshumayelo yakhe ngeCawa yakutshanje kwiCawe yokuQala yamaBhaptizi eBoston. Aba bantwana bebezimase umsitho wokubuyela esikolweni endicinga ukuba bekufanele ukuba ubhiyozele unyaka wesikolo ozayo kwaye ngokungacacanga ikamva labantwana, konke okusemandleni abo, ukutyhileka kwabo kweli hlabathi. Ukanti, endaweni yoko bafumana isifundo kwinto enokwenzeka kwimizimba emnyama nemdaka kweli hlabathi. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba unyaniseke kangakanani na njengomzali, uzama ukukhumbuza abantwana bakho ukuba baxabisekile yaye babalulekile, akukho kukhulisa abantwana ngokwaneleyo ehlabathini okunokuchasa olo hlobo lwesigidimi. Ayimangalisi into yokuba, kubazali base-Afrika baseMelika, ukuba ngumzali ngamanye amaxesha kunokuziva ngathi (kumagama kaStacia Brown) a โumsebenzi wesidenge. "
Kangangamashumi eminyaka ngoku iifeminists zemibala kunye nabanye ababhinqileyo abamhlophe baye benza imeko yokuba inkululeko yokuzala ingaphezulu nje kwelungelo lokuqhomfa kunye nokulawulwa kokuzalwa. Inkululeko yokuzala kufuneka iquke ilungelo loku baye Iintsana ukuba kwaye xa uzifuna - into engasoloko ikhethwa kubafazi bemibala abaye babulawa ngokungafaniyo ngokuchasene nentando yabo okanye abo bahluthwa ngenkqubo yezibonelelo, ngaloo ndlela benza ukuba umzali kube nzima ngakumbi. Ukongezelela kwezi ngxininiso uxinezeleko lweemvakalelo zothando oludandathekisayo abazali abanalo ngabantwana babo baze bazive olo thando kwimekobume yentsapho ejoliswe kugonyamelo lobuhlanga. NjengoTamura Lomax kwi Ucingo lobufazi uthi, โNdingumama ontsundu nomfazi ontsundu. Ndoyikela ukhuseleko lwezithandwa zam yonke imihla. "
Ukubulawa kolutsha olumnyama ngenene ngumba wobulungisa kwinzala, njengoko uDani McLain exoxa Wesizwe. Mhlawumbi sinokongeza ukuba ubulungisa bokuzala bunwenwela ekubeni ukwazi ukuthumela umntwana wakho kumdlalo kwinqaba ye-bouncy kumsitho wokubuyela esikolweni ngaphandle kokuba nexhala lokuba umntwana wakho uya kuthi kwangaxeshanye abone umfana omnyama. wabulawa ngabasemagunyeni emva koko iqela eliselula eliNtsundu liphathwa ngokungenambeko.
Ngeli xesha, iikholamu zengcebiso zenzelwe abazali abamhlophe. Uninzi lwazo lwabhalwa ngabazali abamhlophe abaneenjongo ezintle nabanomdla onyanisekileyo wokusebenzisa indima yabo entsatsheni ukulungisa ubuhlanga kuluntu lwethu. Nangona kunjalo uninzi lwezi kholamu zeengcebiso zomeleza ngokungaziyo amandla okusigcina sithe saa kucalucalulo oluyingcambu yolwaphulo-mthetho olwenzeka eFerguson (kwaye lwenzeke kwiindawo ezininzi zoluntu kwilizwe liphela).
Ngokomzekelo, kubazali abamhlophe, safumana amacebiso aneenjongo ezintle ngendlela esifanele sikhumbule ngayo ukuthetha nabantwana bethu ngobuhlanga. Uninzi lwezi ziqwenga zeza kuthi kuluhlu olunamanani: Iindlela Ezilishumi Abazali AbaMhlophe banokulwa Ubuhlanga, Izizathu ezihlanu esizifunayo sonke ukuba sithethe malunga nobuhlanga eMelika, yaye Izinto ezintandathu ezinokwenziwa ngabazali abaMhlophe ukukhulisa abantwana abanobuhlanga - ngokungathi uluhlu lokukhangela lunokusinceda ukulungisa ucalucalulo kunye nabantwana bethu ngendlela efanayo ukuba iitshati zemisebenzi kunye noluhlu lwegrosari lusinceda sizive sisebenza kwaye siphethe.
Ingxaki ephambili kolu luhlu luyinxaxhi into esenza uninzi lwabantu - ukukwazi kwethu ukuvelana. Bazali abamhlophe: ngokungazivumeli ukuba sibe buhlungu, ngokungabelani ngentlungu yethu nabantwana bethu, asingobantu ngokupheleleyo. Senza njengabantu abamhlophe abakholelwa ngokwenene ukuba abo bantwana babuleweyo omnye abantwana babantu. Kufuneka sibebuhlungu aba bantwana babulewe hayi ngokungathi ibingabantwana bethu kodwa kuba bakhona abantwana bethu. Isiphelo sethu sidibene. Abantwana bethu abafikeleli ekubeni babe ngabantu ngokupheleleyo ngaphandle kokuba wonke umntu abe ngumntu ngokupheleleyo.
Esi sisikhumbuzo sokuba nathi bantu abamhlophe kufuneka sibe lusizi ngenxa kaDarren Wilson, ipolisa elimhlophe eladubula uMike Brown. UDarren Wilson, emva kwayo yonke loo nto, uye waphathwa kakubi. Iyunifomu yakhe, umpu wakhe, uqeqesho lwakhe, uloyiko lwakhe, kunye nomnwe wakhe wesalathiso owonwabileyo, kwinqanaba elithile, ijelo elimxinwa nelibulalayo apho kuqukuqela igagasi elikhulu lemiyalezo yezentlalo, yezopolitiko, yenkcubeko eyakha ubomi boMnyama njengento ethile. ayinamsebenzi. Ngokuzivumela ukuba abe leli jelo, uDarren Wilson uyenziwa umntu. Unoxanduva lobuqu ngezenzo zakhe, kodwa abamhlophe nabo banembopheleleko. Inyathelo lokuqala lokuhlela indlela yokwenza intsingiselo yaloo nto kukuvuma kuye njengonyana wethu ngokunjalo, kunye nokuba buhlungu into esiphulukene nayo xa uluntu esiphila kulo lunceda ukujika oonyana bethu abamhlophe baba ngababulali.
Enye ingxaki ngezi zintlu kukuba ziyakhuthaza kuthetha - ngokungathi sisiphelo ngokwayo. Abazali abamhlophe ukuthetha nabantwana babo abamhlophe ngobuhlanga kubalulekile. Abantwana abamhlophe bafuna ingcaciso yomlomo yoko kwenzekayo kwihlabathi elibangqongileyo. Kufuneka beve ngembali kunye noxanduva olulodwa oluza nokuba mhlophe kwilizwe elinobuhlanga. Kodwa ukuthetha akwanelanga.
Incoko yabucala phakathi kwakho nabantwana bakho yiyo kanye loo nto-yabucala. Ubuhlanga asiyomfihlo kwaphela. Ihlala idlala phakathi kwabantu, ngokuqinisekileyo, kodwa ngokusisiseko sisilo esinesakhiwo kunye nenkqubo. Zibuze: leliphi inyathelo endilithathayo ngokuchasene nobuhlanga obucwangcisiweyo kwaye zikhona iindlela endinokuthi ndivumele abantwana bam babone umsebenzi wam kwaye bandikhaphe emsebenzini wam ukuze baqale ukufunda ngokuthe ngcembe nangeendlela ezifanelekileyo ngokweminyaka ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukungena kwixesha elide- Umlo ophantsi, okhokelwa ngokwahlukeneyo ngokuchasene neziko elinemigangatho emininzi, elintsonkothileyo elinjengocalucalulo ngokobuhlanga?
Amanye amacebiso kubazali abamhlophe aquka ukuthatha amanyathelo, kodwa izenzo zizinto ezifana nezi: ukwenza ubuhlobo nabantu abaninzi bebala, โdibanisa isifuba sokudlala,โ nokuthenga iincwadi zemifanekiso ezibonisa abantu abantsundu nabantsundu. Ezi ziingcinga ezintle, nazo, kodwa, njengokuthetha, zithumela umzali kwizisombululo zangasese. Ndiyakwazi ukucinga ukuba abazali abamhlophe banetyala lokubala inani labantu bemibala abababala njengabahlobo kwaye bamise isicwangciso sokuzama "ukufumana" ngaphezulu. Ndinokuba nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wabazali abamhlophe ngokunyanisekileyo bethenga iithoyi kunye neencwadi ezichanekileyo kwezopolitiko kwaye bezibuza ukuba le ncwadi ilungile na okanye ukuba loo nto yokudlala iyakunceda, kwaye ngobuchule bezama ukuhambisa abantwana bakho kwezo zinto xa eyona nto bayithandayo kukuba "Uphi uWaldo?"
Okubi kakhulu, ndiyakwazi ukucinga ukuba abazali abamhlophe bathatha eli cebiso entliziyweni kwaye bacinga ukuba oku kwanele. Ayiyo.
Ngubani owayesazi ukuba ingcebiso yobuzali inokuphinda kabini njengemiyalelo yendlela yokwenza njenge-neoliberal - gxila emntwini kwaye uthenge ezinye izinto?
Kwindlela engeyo-neoliberal, mhlawumbi singabazali abamhlophe singazama ukujikela ngaphandle kwekhaya. Mhlawumbi singenza njengabantu abadala abazibona njengabadlali behlabathi, njengabantu abaqondayo ukuba utshintsho lwenzeka xa sijoyina nabanye ukuba sihlangene sithathe inyathelo malunga neyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu. Oku kutshintsha umyalezo kubantwana bethu ngendlela ebalulekileyo. Ayiyo zonke ngabo kunye nokhetho lwabo lobuqu. Asifumani ukukhululeka ukuba ubuncinci asizange sikhulise uDarren Wilson. Okanye inzala yethu ayiziphathi ngendlela yangaphandle yobuhlanga. Ubuhlanga bukhulu kakhulu kunokhetho lwethu lwabucala lobuzali. Kwaye sifanele sibabonise abantwana bethu oko, njengabazali babo nangenxa yokuba sibakhathalele zonke bantwana, sikwidabi lokulwa ubuhlanga kwinqanaba elikhulu. Sikhangela iindlela zokusebenza nabanye ukwenza umahluko indlela uluntu lwethu olusebenza ngayo.
Njengabazali, ngokuqinisekileyo siya kujongana neziko kunye nekhaya. Abantwana bethu kufuneka sicinge ngabo size sithethe nabo. Kwaye ayingombono umbi ukucinga malunga nezinto zokudlala kunye neencwadi ezihlala ekhayeni lakho.
Kodwa ezi zenzo azijongani nocalucalulo kwaye aziqinisekisi ukuba sikhulisa โabantwana abaluthanda ubuhlanga.โ Ukuba kukho nantoni na, ezi zenzo zinokwenza okwahlukileyo. Basenokuxhasa abantwana bakho ukuba babone ubuhlanga ngezabo iilensi zabucala. โI andicaluli ngokobuhlanga,โ basenokucinga njalo. โI Ndifunde iincwadi ezingoHarriet Tubman.โ Okanye ukwenza uphawu ngakumbi: "I ube nabahlobo abaNtsundu.โ Kwangaxeshanye, phambi kwethu kukho irhamncwa elikhulu localucalulo kunye nabantu bebala ababulawa ngokucwangcisiweyo, bevalelwe ezintolongweni, bevalelwe ukuze bangakwazi ukufikelela kwimithombo yobutyebi, imfundo, imisebenzi enesidima nokhathalelo lwempilo. Njengabazali abamhlophe, kufuneka sibe ngumzekelo kubantwana bethu ukuba sithatha njani ukuba kwi, njani ukwala ukuhendelwa kwizisombululo zabucala, siyala njani de-humanize thina nabantwana bethu ngokuthenga kwingcamango yokuba sikhuselekile nokuba abanye ayiyi.
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