Ini ndiri mudzidzi, ndine zvinyorwa mumagazini anoongororwa nevezera uye nedhigirii rekupedzisira. Uye nhasi ndinoda kuita izvo vanhu vazhinji vakazivikanwa vakangwara vangatora seanopokana-njere nharo munzvimbo imwe chaiyo.
Ini ndinosema manzwiro uye magariro anokanganisa maitiro ezvizhinji zve "kumuka" uye kushevedzera tsika kwainoburitsa.
Hongu, vamwe vakangwara vakangwara vanogona kuratidza zvipo zvavo zvekutsanangudza kunyangwe hunhu hwakanaka hunoitwa nevamwe uye vachihudaidza kuti "chiratidzo chehunhu," izwi randinozvidza.
Uri musikana wechidiki. Unobatsira musikana mudiki pamharadzano ine vanhu vakawanda. Munhu ane njere ane njere aiseka oudza vadzidzi vake kuti, “Ndiyo muenzaniso wekuratidza hunhu. Ari kungoita chikumbiro chake chinogamuchirika munharaunda kuti atenderwe zvichibva pachiito ichi chinoitwa mukuzvinakira.”
Hongu. Uye ndinokutendai, musikana wechidiki, nekubatsira. Kana iwe wakangozviitira kubvumidzwa, wazviwana!
Asi zvinoda munhu anotsoropodza zvikuru kuti aone kusava nehanya kwakadaro soudyire.
Chandinodzidzisa vadzidzi vangu ndechokuti kuziva nzira yokubatsira nayo vamwe kunogonawo kurangarirwa kuva kwakajekeswa kuzvifarira. Ne "kuvhenekerwa" ndinoreva kuti chinangwa changu ndechekuona kuti ndingashanda sei nevamwe kuti tiwane budiriro. Uye zvakare ndinoreva kuti, kana ndikarasikirwa nechimwe chinhu uye mumwe munhu akabatsirwa kana kufadzwa, ndinozviona sekunge mune yangu yakavhenekerwa kuzvida zvakare.
Mumwe wevadiki vakangwara vandati ndambosangana naye ndiDaniel Hunter, uye mune rimwe remabhuku aGeorge Lakey (rimwe randinoshandisa mune rimwe remakirasi angu, "Makundiro atinoita: Gwaro rekuita mushandirapamwe wakananga kusiri mhirizhonga"), Hunter anobvunzurudzwa uye anoudza. nyaya yekubatsira mudzidzi wechidiki wekumaruwa ekuIndiana wekoreji– tichamuti Jimmy– kutanga kuona ungochani zvakasiyana nehwakanga hwagadzirwa uye yakatsanangurwa kwaari semukomana aikurira muchiKristu chaizvo, chikamu chenyika tsvuku.
Maitiro aHunter haasi ekudana maitiro asina kunaka asi kudaidza vamwe kuti vapinde, kuvabatsira kufunga zvakadzama uye nekunzwira tsitsi, pamusoro pevamwe.
Jimmy akanyora tsamba kupepanhau revadzidzi vepakoreji ndokuedza kutsanangura kubvuma kwake kutsva kwemunhu chero upi zvake aiva ngochani. Tsamba yake yaishandisa mamwe mazwi echinyakare asi chero munhu aiverenga nechero pfungwa dzakavhurika aigona kuona uchokwadi hwake.
Vashoma kubva ku "kumuka" tsika pakambasi vakatora zvakanyanya kutadza kwaJimmy kushandisa mazwi azvino uye vakamurwisa pasocial media, mupepa, uye pamusasa.
Jimmy akaenda kuna Daniel achisvimha misodzi, ndokumuudza pasina mubvunzo kuti ndiko kaiva kekupedzisira kuedza kutaura zvakadaro.
Daniel akaenderera mberi kuudza Lakey kuti hunhu hwekudaidzira hwakadaro ndiyo shanduko yemagariro zvinoitika-nokuda kwezvakaipa, kudzokera kukusashivirira, kudzokera kunyarara mukutarisana nekuzivikanwa kwekuzivikanwa, kudzokera kune kusabatanidzwa muzviitiko zvinodaidzira kubatanidzwa.
Ndinobvuma, zvakaoma kudzivisa kushevedzera mamwe maitiro, asi ndakadzidza mumakore angu 53 sababa chena kuvanakomana vaviri veAfrica America kuti nguva dzose zvinogoneka kudana vanhu uye kutanga maitiro ekuvabatsira kuti vaende kune tsitsi, kuonga kune vose.
Sababa mudiki, zvakanditorera nguva yakareba kuti ndigadzirise dzimwe nzira dzehasha dzekupopota. Asi pandakagumburwa navo zvakashanda. Nguva dzese.
Semuenzaniso, nevamwe vanogona kushandisa n-izwi, ndakadzidza kutaura chimwe chinhu chakadai, "Uri murume ari nani pane izvozvo. Hamureve izvozvo."
Nevamwe, ndakashandisa imwe vhezheni yekuti, “Ehe, une kodzero yekutaura chero chaunoda. Asi ndinoda kuti unzwisise kuti kana ukashandisa izwi iri, rinorwadza moyo wangu. Vanakomana vangu vanhu vakanaka uye shoko iroro rinondibaya mumwoyo.”
Idzo nzira dzinoshanda. Chaizvoizvo, imwe kana imwe inoshanda nguva dzese. Handisi kutaura kuti munhu akashandisa rusaruraganda zvino arapwa rusaruraganda, kana kuti haana kuishandisa maminitsi gumi gare gare paakanga aine vamwe vanhu ini ndisipo.
Asi ndakabudisa zvakanakisisa maari, kunyange kwenguva pfupi. Uye mune zvese zveaya apfuura makore makumi mashanu nematatu chero munhu asina kumboshandisa mutauro wakadaro pandiri zvakare. Saka, kwandiri, muenzaniso mudiki wekujekeswa kuzvifarira. Ndakadzivirirwa nechiitiko chakaora chekunzwa shoko iroro. Akabatwa somumwe munhu ane simba rokukuvadza kana kuti kwete uye akasarudza kurega kurwadzisa, anenge achinzwa zviri nani pamusoro pake amene nokuda kwetsitsi dzake.
Saka, kupedzisa, ndiri kudaidzira avo vanodana vamwe. Ndakazvisuma here semunhu ane njere dzakakwana, murume anowirirana uye akangwara? handina. Saka ndapota ndiregerereiwo kutadza kwangu sezvandinodaidza vanodaidza vamwe. Hapana hunhu hunoratidza kwandiri!
Dr. Tom H. Hastings ndiye Coördinator weConflict Resolution BA/BS degree zvirongwa uye zvitupa paPortland State University, PeaceVoice Mupepeti Mukuru, uye pane imwe nguva chapupu chehunyanzvi chekudzivirira vanhu vanopikisa mudare.
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