Pane imwe imba yekugezera yavose muMorocco, ndakaona mumwe wechiduku achigeza ambuya vake. Akasimudza nhengo imwe neimwe, achifambisa mazamu ake uku neuko, uye akashandura dumbu rake kuti risvike pakakoromoka. Akasvikomira pamusoro pake ndokusvikomira pedyo naye ndokugara padivi pake achikwesha mbuya vake. Sipo nhema yaigadzirwa nemafuta emuorivhi yaibuda mumucheka wakakasharara waaishandisa kubvisa ganda rakafa netsvina. Mbuya vakabva vangoti rabada pafloor yainge yakavharirwa mataira.
Pedyo, vakadzi vaviri vezera repakati nepakati vaichinjana kukweshana. Mumwe akarara pasi asi mumwe achishanda pamusoro pemainji ese emuviri wake - kunyatsoteerera, zvinyoro, uye zvakakwana. Pashure pacho, mugamuchiri wengwariro yose akazvidhonza amene ndokutsvoda shamwari yake sokunge kuti aiti mazvita. Vakabva vachinja mabasa, scrubber ichifamba ichipinda panzvimbo yakareruka pasi uye tsika yacho yakadzoserwa kumashure.
Kuburikidza nemhepo, waikwanisa kuona vakadzi vakawanda, vamwe vakapfeka bhurugwa remukati uye vamwe vasina, vakagara vaviri vaviri kana mapoka madiki - zvese zvine nyaya-zve-chokwadi asi kuchenesana zvinyoro. Kune vakadzi ava vekuMoroccan, kushanyira hammam itsika yevhiki nevhiki inobvumira kwete chete kuchenesa kwakadzama asi kushamwaridzana zvakare. Kwandiri, munhu wekumavirira ajaira mvura yekugeza yega uye asina kushama paruzhinji, hammam yaive chizaruro. Kana kusiri hunhu kutarisa mumamiriro ezvinhu enguva dzose, zvinofanirwa kunge zvakanyanya kana munhu wese akakupoteredza akashama, asi zvakadaro zvaive zvakaoma kuti ndisarega maziso angu achinonoka. Handisati ndamboona nyama yechikadzi yakawanda kudaro.
Zvakaita kuti ndione kuti miviri yechikadzi chete yandinonyatsoziva ndeyangu uye vhezheni yebhodhi, uye sezvo vhezheni yebhidhibhodhi ichipa mhando imwe chete yemuviri wechikadzi (mudiki, murefu, uye mutete zvisingaite), zvinoreva kuti ndine tsvarakadenga. kuziva zvishoma kwezviri kuitika pasi pezvipfeko zvevakadzi.
Ndakanga ndichiedza kutsanangura izvi kune shamwari yangu, uye iye akaseka, "Iwe hausweri kutenderera kugym zvakanyanya, handizvo?"
Zvakanaka, chokwadi chenyaya ndechekuti, ini handiendi kugym, asi ndinowana pfungwa yake. Pane mimwe mikana yekuona hanzvadzi dzako munyama. Asi kupfuudzana mukamuri yekukiya iwe paunopinda mushower yako yakavanzika kunopa kudzika uye kwakawanda ruzivo rwezvatiri chaizvo pasi pehembe dzedu. "Saka manje?" ungabvunza.
Sedambudziko, harimiri kumusoro uko nehondo yeIraq uye nehurongwa hwehupfumi hwenyika, asi kutora chikamu mutsika inogara ichisimudzira imwe mhando yemuviri - iyo billboard body - uye inoda kuvanzika uye kungwara pamusoro pemamwe marudzi ese emuviri. hazvina kunaka kuvakadzi. Muhammam, vakadzi nevasikana vanosvika pakuona yavo yapfuura, yazvino, uye yeramangwana, zvese zvakarongwa nenzira isingashamisi. Mukadzi wega wega anogona kuzvitsvaga panguva yekuchembera. Vane makore makumi mana vanotora shanduko yavo kubva kumuviri wemakore makumi maviri nemakumi matatu kuenda kumamiriro avo azvino uye vane makumi emakore ari kuuya akarongwa mumhando dzakasiyana siyana.
Vangani vedu isu vakadzi vanorangarira vhezheni yevechiri kuyaruka isu pachedu? Ndakanga ndakanganwa zvachose kusvikira ndaona vasikana vakawanda vari mumatanho akasiyana-siyana ekuyaruka vakarembera pahammam. Sei uchiyeuka uye nei uchitarisira? Ndinofunga kuti zvingadaro nemhaka yokuti mutsika dzedu, tinovhiringidzwa nokuyaruka. Vasikana vedu vadiki vane hyper-sexualized nevezvenhau vemakambani, izvo zvinogonesa shanduko yavari mairi uye vanoishandisa senzvimbo yakaorera yekushambadzira. Sevabereki, tinodzidziswa kuti tizvidye mwoyo uye tizvidye mwoyo pamusoro pezvavacha "pinda" pazera rino kana kuti vanga "panduka sei." Ko kana tikawana mukana wekungove navo uye nekuve pamberi peshanduko yavo - nguva yese iyi tichiibata seyaive yakajairwa, yemazuva ese, isingashamisiki kuti ndizvo zvazviri. Ko kana shanduko yevechiri kuyaruka yaive chimwe chinhu chatakakwanisa kubvuma zvizere uye panguva imwe chete kufuratira (zvakafanana nekuona kwatinoita mwaka uchichinja)?
Uye nokuda kwavasikana vaduku, vanosvika pakuona vakadzi vamarudzi ose noukuru, vakadekara chose chose mumiviri yavo vamene uye vakapoterera miviri yavamwe. Ichi hachisi chipo chidiki. Enzanisa izvozvo netsika yedu apo vakadzi vanochembera vari vega muimba yekupfekedza, kwatinotendeukira uku uye uko kuti tione kuti "slimming tekinoroji" yesutu nyowani yekugezera inoshanda sei kana kuongorora kana iyo push-up bra inovanza zvakaringana kudonha. zamu.
(Inofanira kunge iri nyaya yeimwe tsananguro yekuongorora zvizere kuti zvinofamba sei kuti tsika - seyeMorocco - inoda kuti vakadzi vafukidzwe pachena inokwanisawo kuwana nzvimbo yekuti vakadzi vabatane uye vanyanye pachivande. Uye sei tsika - seyedu muUS - inokurudzira vakadzi kuratidza zvese pachena, asi inosimudzira atomization uye kukwikwidza mumwe nemumwe pachivande.)
Kushanya kwevhiki nevhiki kune hammam kunopa vakadzi chiono chisina kuzvidzora chemiviri yevamwe vakadzi, chimwe chinhu icho padiki chinogadzirisa zvakasiyana-siyana mumaumbirwo edu uye hukuru uye chinoisa kuchembera zvizere. Kupfuura izvozvo, zvakadaro, zvinofanirwa kuve zororo kuti usagare uchizviona uchienzanisa nebhodhi rebhodhi. Pane kudaro, unozviona uri musanganiswa wemiviri yakakura, uye (ndiri kungofungidzira pano, asi zvinoita sekunge fungidziro ine musoro) saka unozviona sewe *wewe* mune iyo huru assortment. Kusiyana nevaya vedu vari munyika huru yekumadokero vasingambove vekwavo nekuti zvakajairwa uye zvakashambadzirwa zvinyorwa zvemuviri wechikadzi hazvigoneke kune vazhinji vedu.
Kuonana kwekuona mu hammam inongova chikamu chayo, zvisinei. Kune zvakare humbozha husingadaviriki hwekusangana kwenyama - yakachengeteka, yepedyo, platonic, isingazvizivi, yakazara-muviri kubata. Kunyangwe ini ndichinyora izvozvo, ndinoshamisika kana ndiri kugadzira. Zvinonzwikaโฆ utopian. Vakadzi vetsika dzandiri chikamu havawanzoungana pamwe chete uye *kuitirana* kune mumwe nemumwe - nerudo uye nemoyo wese.
Tinoita zvatinogona, kunyange zvakadaro. Tinotaura nezvemiviri yedu. Vamwe vanogadzirisana bvudzi kana kuitirana nzara. Isu tinogona kuita zvakanyanya kubata-bata pakati pedu kupfuura zvinoita varume pakati pavo. Isu tinotandara pamawebhusaiti senge http://thebellyproject.wordpress.com/ or http://theshapeofamother.com/ iyo inoratidza mifananidzo isingazivikanwe yedumbu, inotumirwa nevakadzi vari kuedza kubata nemiviri yavo yepashure. Iyi mifananidzo inounzwa ne cyber inotiyeuchidza kuti hatisi toga, kuti mitsetse yakajairwa, uye kuti matumbu akadzikama haawanzo kuwanikwa pakati pevanhu vakajairwa. Vakadzi vanopindura kumifananidzo isingazivikanwe nemashoko asingazivikanwe ekutsigira. "Wakachena!" uye "Iwe unenge uchipisa zvakare pasina nguva."
Mifananidzo yacho haizivikanwe. Uye ndini chete uye komputa yangu yekutarisa. Saka zvakanaka kutarisa. Uye ndaigona nguva dzose kupinda uye kuwedzera mashoko angu ekurudziro. Asi ndoda kupinda mubhavhu revanhu rinopisa, uko kunokwanisika kunyatsochena, kunyatsozorora, uye chaizvo kumba nemuviri wako.
Cynthia Peters anogona kuwanikwa pa cyn.peters [pa] gmail.com.