Vanababa vakanaka madzitateguru echinyakare sekureva kweGlobe mushumo weongororo ichangoburwa yakabudiswa muJournal of Marriage and Family. Kuva baba kwakanaka kune chekuita nekugadzikana, inodaro ongororo iyi, iyo inoita seyakakonzerwa nekuve nemukadzi, diploma yekukoreji, uye hukama hwakasimba nemasangano asiri emumba akaita sechechi nemasangano evagari. Mumwe anogona kutarisira kuti mushure mezana ramakore rekurwisana kwevakadzi uye makumi emakore evangochani nengochani vachipokana nezvetsika yenyukireya, kuti izvo zvinonzi "zvakanaka" baba vezana ramakore rechi21 hazvingave zvakakwanirana zvakadaro nechimiro chemutungamiri. mu "Baba Vanoziva Zvakanakisisa."
Asi iyo data inoratidza kuti "vanobatanidzwa" vanababa, "varume vakajairwa." Vanoenda kuchechi, kutora chikamu muzviitwa zvechivanhu, vanoratidza mabiko emhuri, vanofarira vanakomana vavo nevana โvakazvarwa,โ uye dzimwe nguva vanotora vana vavo vachivakanda kumusoro nekudzika kuti vafare. Panguva iyo hurumende dzemubatanidzwa nedzihurumende dziri kubatanidza hutano kuwanano uye kuranga vakadzi vanorasika kubva kuvabereki vaviri, heterosexual cookie-cutter shanduro yekurera, chidzidzo ichi uye chirevo chakajairika pamusoro pacho, isimba rakavanza kushamwaridzana kwerudyi. mutemo unoshungurudza vakadzi, vana nevarume.
Saka, sezvo nhokwe dzakakwirira, uye sezvo zvidzidzo zvichitaura "chokwadi" chinoshandiswa kudzivirira uye kusimbisa tsika dzemagariro nemagariro pamusoro pekuti mhuri dzinofanira kutaridzika sei, ngationgororei data (sezvakataurwa neGlobe) uye tione pfungwa dzatingagona. make of it.
Chidzidzo ichi chinoisa vana mumapoka maererano nekuti vanobatanidzwa mumasangano evagari vemo, vangave vane vana โvakaberekwaโ kana kuti โvasiri biologyโ, mwero wedzidzo yavo, chitendero chavo, uye murume kana mukadzi wevana vavo. Zvino inovaisa pasi peavhareji, avhareji, kana pamusoro peavhareji kana zvasvika padanho ravo rekubatanidzwa nevana vavo. Inowedzerazve "kubereka kwakanaka" nekuverenga nhamba yezvokudya zvemanheru izvo vana vanodya nevana vavo, uye nhamba yemaawa avanopedza pane zvakarongwa zvevechidiki.
Mhedziso yakakosha yechidzidzo ichi inoratidzika kunge ndeyekuti vanababa vanobatikana munharaunda/zviitwa zvechivanhu uye vangave maEvangelical Protestants kana maCatholic vari pamusoro peavhareji kana zvasvika panguva imwe chete nevana vavo, uye vanonyanya kukwirira. kana zvasvika kuโmaawa pavhiki emabasa akarongwa epwere.โ
Mapepanhau akapepeta nyaya seumboo hwekuti โzvisungo kuchechi, taundi zvinoita kuti vanababa vari naniโ (Boston Globe, 8-12-01, p. A4). Asi kunyatsoongorora iyo data kunoratidza izvo zvandingadaidza kuti zvinoshamisa uye zvakazarurwa nhau. Maererano nemavara maduku ari pasi petafura, โavharejiโ inorondedzerwa sababa โvaitora rutivi kane pavhiki murumwe rudzi rwechiito chomunhu oga, chakadai sokuverengera mwana, kubatsira basa rechikoro, uye kuita basa rokuchikoro. kana kutamba.โ
Kane??
Zvinogoneka sei kuti baba vepakati vanogona kutarisa kumashure paavhareji vhiki uye kuverenga zviitiko zvina chete - zvehurefu chero hwenguva - nevana vavo? Uye ava ndivo vana vaanogara navo! Zvinoita sekuti kwandiri musoro wenyaya unogona kunge wakangoverenga, "Kunyange vanababa vepamusoro-soro havawanzo sangana nevana."
Kwete kuti ndinoisa zvakawanda muzvidzidzo zvinoedza kuratidza chimwe chinhu pamusoro pekurera vana. Vanogara vachiita sevanomutsa mibvunzo yakawanda kupfuura yavanopindura. Ndeipi nzira yakanakisa yekuyera kusangana kwevabereki / kwemwana, semuenzaniso? Kuverengera mwana wako "Goodnight Moon" chiitiko chakakosha here? Zvinotora asingasviki maminetsi matatu, shure kwezvose, uye chakanyanya chiitiko cherote mushure menguva yekutanga kuburikidza.
Ini pachangu ndakaverengera vana vangu mabhuku akazara, ane nguva chaiyo yekuona mifananidzo uye kutaura kwakawanda muzwi rangu, nepo pfungwa dzangu dzaive 95% kumwewo. Uhu hunyanzvi hwakakosha hwandakavandudza makore apfuura apo vana vangu vaive vadiki uye ndichikumbira kuti vanzwe bhuku rimwechete kakawanda. Kuverenga kwakadzokororwa kwemabhuku evana anonyanya kunakidza kunogona kufinha uye chero mubereki ane pfungwa yekuzvichengetedza achagadzira mishonga yakafanana kune inonetesa.
Ini ndinowedzera "kuvepo" pandinenge ndichiita zvimwe zvinhu sekuti mwana wangu ane makore matanhatu okuberekwa andibatsire kubika kudya kwemanheru. Asi kune vatsvakurudzi vemhuri, izvi zvichida hazvifananidzi nguva yehutano. Haisi yemwana. Chokwadi hakusi โkutambaโ kana โkubatsira basa rechikoro rechikoroโ (sekutsanangura kunoita chidzidzo nguva yemunhu-pamwe), asi ndinobatikana zvakanyanya panguva yerudzi urwu rwechiitwa chakafanana kupfuura zvandiri panguva yekuverenga 6nd yeโGoodnight Moon. โ Iye ari kushandisa mushonga wemuriwo, mushure mezvose, uye izvi zvinoda kutarisisa kwangu. Zvimedu zvemuriwo zviri kumhara pasi uye ari kudya hafu yezvigadzirwa. Kana ndikasateerera, hapazovi nekudya.
Havana kubvunza kana vanababa vachibika kudya kwemanheru nevana vavo muchidzidzo ichi, asi vakawana kuti vangani vanababa vakaratidza kudya kudya kwemanheru nevana vavo. Vanenge chero baba, zvinozoitika, vanodya zvinenge 4.4 kudya pasvondo nevana vavo. Vaya veEvangelical Protestants ndivo vari pamusoro-soro nepadiki, vachigovana .3 kumwe kudya nevana vavo pasvondo pane avhareji. Uye boka rinodzungaira โrisina mubatanidzwaโ, vasina kuenda kuchechi kana kuenda kumusangano wevaPromisekeepers nguva pfupi yadarika, vanokwanisa kudya ka 4.2 pasvondo nevana vavo.
Pane chimwe cheizvi chine basa here? Ko hafu yezvokudya zvekuwedzera izvo vaEvangelical vanodya nevana vavo zvinovaita vana baba vari nani pane vasina mubatanidzwa here? Zvakadini kana vechitendero zvikuru vari kushandisa nguva idzodzo dzezvokudya kuyeuchidza vana vavo kuti vangwarire dhiabhorosi kana kuti kupeta zvokudya zvinogadzirwa nomudzimai anoshingaira, uyo anochipawo, anochichenesa, uye achitora zvikarakadzo zvezvokudya nokuda kwezvokudya zvemhuri zvomunguva yemberi? Iyi ndiyo tsanangudzo yekuti baba vakanaka? Mamiriro ezvinhu kana mamiriro ebasa ane basa here? Sezviri pachena kwete.
Zvimwe chetezvo ndezvechokwadi kune vanoenda kuchechi-yemhando yenguva. Chatinoziva ndechekuti vanosangana nezviitiko zvinopfuura zvina zvemunhu-pa-mumwe pasvondo nevana vavo, uye kuti iyi โnguvaโ yekurera inotevedzera โyekubhengiโ modhi (inogutsurira kuna Paulo Freire) - unoisa dhipoziti mwana (semuenzaniso, rubatsiro nebasa rechikoro) uye kutarisira kuzokwanisa kubvisa mari gare gare (semuenzaniso, chinzvimbo chepamusoro pasarudzo dzevanababa).
Zvakadini nezvese zviitiko zvakakosha zvekurera vabereki zvisingateveri uyu modhi? Kufamba mwana wako kuchiteshi chebhazi uye kumirira ipapo naye mumvura kuchinaya; kupedza hafu yeawa parunhare kuaina kunze kweinishuwarenzi yehutano snafus; kupenda imba yavo yekurara; kuuya navo kumutsara wepikicha, rally, musangano; uchivadzidzisa nzira yekuchenesa imba yekugezera - kakawanda!
Uye zvakadini navanababa vane chisarudzo chiduku zvikuru? Kana kuti ndeupi hupenyu hwemhuri hwakarongeka zvekuti nguva idzi dzinogoneka hadzina basa nekunaka kwekurera kwavo? Vanababa vakawanda vokuSalvador vandinodzidzisa ESL kuita mabasa maviri.
Abraham Romero muchengeti wepaimwe mall mumasabhubhu kubva pakati pehusiku kusvika na8:00 am. Anouya kumba mangwanani, anorara kwemaawa mashomanana ozodya kudya kwemasikati nemhuri yake. Na2:30 anotyaira mudzimai wake kubasa kwake obva azvifambisa kuenda kubasa rake somutarisiri wechipatara, kwaanoshanda kubva 3-11. Ipapo inokurumidza shanduko yeyunifomu uye ipapo shanduko yevarindi inotanga zvakare. โAsi ndine kupera kwevhiki kwemhuri yangu,โ anodaro. Uye izvo zvinoratidzika serupo zvakanyanya kwandiri.
Zvimwe zvaizova nani kwaari kana akangorara weekend yose. Chidzidzo chacho, zvisinei, chinoita kuti rudzi rwake rwekuzvipira ruve rusingaoneki. Haibvunzi, somuenzaniso, kuti zvimbudzi zvingani zvechipatara zvaunochenesa vhiki imwe neimwe mukutsinhana neropafadzo yokurera vana vako muNyika Yemikana.
Zvinoratidza kuti chinhu chimwe chete vanababa veEvangelical Protestant neCatholic vanonyanya kukwira zvichienzaniswa neMainline Protestants uye vasina mubatanidzwa "maawa pasvondo ezviitwa zvakarongeka zvevechidiki." Yekutanga inopedza anenge maawa maviri kupfuura ekupedzisira. Nei zvingadaro? Chidzidzo hachitauri. Asi imwe fungidziro ndeyekuti mamwe machechi nemapoka everuzhinji ane hunyanzvi hwevechidiki zvakadaro, saka vanababa vanobatanidzwa mumasangano aya vanongogara vachibatanidzwa muzviitiko zvakarongeka zvevechidiki.
Sezvo nenguva yemhando uye kudya kwemanheru, chidzidzo hachitiudzi chero chinhu pamusoro pezvirongwa zvakarongeka.
Zvine basa here?
Ehe. Hatiiti kurera kwedu pasina. Kudzidzisa Little League, kuperekedza vechidiki vechechi kuenda kunhandare yeBowling, vachiuya kuzodya, uye/kana kudzokorora โGoodnight Moonโ hazvisi zviratidzo zvinongoerekana zvaitika zvekuva baba โvakanakaโ. Chokwadi, zvingadaro here kuti munguva yehondo sezvatiri iye zvino, nguva iyo masangano ari kusimbisa kusaenzana uye achiisa hwaro hwenzanga yemberi iyo ichava nevana vedu vangave vadzvinyiriri kana kuti vanodzvinyirirwa, vane mari kana kuti vanodzvinyirirwa. vasina-vasina, kungava here kuti kudzidzisa Little League kushandiswa zvisina kunaka kwenguva kune chero baba vane hanya?
Kwete kuti ndinopesana nevana vanotamba baseball.
Ndangoneta netsika yakakurumbira inosimbisa tsika dzemadzitateguru, uye inopa tsananguro yakamanikana, isina mamiriro ekurera kwakanaka - iyo inotikurudzira kuti titarise nguva dzinogoneka uye hunhu hudiki, pane nyika ichagara nhaka yevana vedu. kubva kwatiri, nemidziyo yatichange takavapa kuti vaenderere mberi.