Izigameko zokubulala zangempelasonto edlule e-El Paso, eTexas nase-Dayton, e-Ohio, zenze isibalo sokudubulana kwabantu abaningi ezinsukwini zokuqala ezingu-215 zonyaka safinyelela ku-251. E-United States of Ammunition, lokho kungaphezu kokukodwa ngosuku. Kwenzakalani? Ukuchaza uJames Carville, “Ubudoda, bantu.”
Kuyangicasula lokho ngoba kusobala ngubani ingabe ukudubula abezindaba, osopolitiki, kanye nezazi azivamile ukusho into ebaluleke kakhulu cishe kukho konke ukubulawa kwabantu abaningi e-US—ubulili bomdubuli! UPatrick Crusius, u-Texan oneminyaka engu-21 ubudala obhekene necala lokubulala u-El Paso, ungumuntu owaziwayo omhlophe. Umbulali wase-Dayton owabulawa, u-Connor Betts, ngaphambilini wayehlanganise “uhlu lokudlwengulwa” lwabesifazane ayefuna ukubahlukumeza ngokocansi. Bobabili bangabafana bamaphosta bobudoda obunobuthi.
Noma yiliphi ithemba lokuthi sizoqeda umsangano kumele liqale ngokuvuma ukuthi cishe kuhlale kudutshulwa amadoda. Kuze kube yilapho sibeka ubulili njengento ebalulekile emizamweni yethu yokuvimbela ukudutshulwa kwabantu abaningi, sisemsebenzini weziwula. Sekuyiminyaka engu-20 ngiwuphinda lo mlayezo, kusukela eColumbine. Ngaphambi Kwesihlahla Sokuphila, i-Thousand Oaks, i-Parkland, i-Sutherland Springs, ne-Las Vegas, kwakukhona i-Virginia Tech, i-Sandy Hook, i-Aurora. Bonke abadubuli besilisa; ngokuvamile abamhlophe.
Masivume futhi ukuthi yini hhayi kuhlolwa—indlela esizihlanganisa ngayo nabafana kanye nendlela esiwanaka ngayo amadoda anganelisekile. Cabanga ngoyedwa, owesilisa owaxoshwa esikoleni esiphakeme. (Owayeyintombi ka-Connor Betts utshele i-MSNBC ukuthi umbulali wase-Dayton “wayengenalo uhlelo lokusekela.”) Ngenxa yokuthi siyazi ukuthi cishe zonke izigilamkhuba zihlukanisiwe kangakanani, lobo bulili abubalulekile engxoxweni yezwe buveza ubumpumputhe bezinga eliphezulu kakhulu. Ukunganaki leli qiniso kwandisa ingozi.
Ungangizwa kabi. Ukwandisa imithetho yezibhamu—eqinile, iba ngcono. Khuphula ingcindezi ukuze uvale i-NRA. Sekela iGiffords Law Center, Guns Down America, Everytown for Gun Safety, kanye nomkhankaso weBrady. Yiba nakho.
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Sidinga ukuvukelwa kwezwe lonke. I-Demand Congress igunyaze iCenters for Disease Control (CDC) ukuthi ifunde ukuthi sijwayelana kanjani nabantu besilisa, kusukela enkulisa. Cabanga nje uma kusukela eminyakeni emithathu kuya phambili besilandela abesilisa hhayi nje ukukhomba abafana abanenkinga—kodwa futhi futhi okubaluleke nakakhulu—ukuze sithuthukise amakharikhulamu ukuze bathuthukise ukuhlakanipha kwabo ngokomzwelo futhi bathuthukise umuzwa wabo wokuxhumana. Uhlelo lokulinga lungasatshalaliswa ngentwasahlobo elandelayo nge-Head Start.
Iyiphi indima engadlalwa abezindaba zangempela? Kanjani a Izindonga zangaphambili uphenyo ngobudoda nobudlova? Noma, uJohn Oliver Iviki eledlule namhlanje ekhethekile. Amaphephandaba emadolobheni lapho ukudubulana kwenzeke khona angase abambisane ukuze akhiqize uchungechunge lwezizwe lonke olunesihloko esithi “Amadoda, Ubudoda, Nokudutshulwa Kwenqwaba.” Amanethiwekhi nezindaba zekhebula zingenza okukhethekile, futhi. Kusukela i #Nami futhi ukunyakaza kwaqala imidiya ibe yimpumelelo enkulu ukuhlanganisa amachashazi phakathi kobudoda obunobuthi nokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi. Kungani kunendawo eyimpumputhe ezungeze abadubuli abaningi?
Sekuyiminyaka ngiyingxenye ye- ukunyakaza kwembulunga yonke yamadoda aphikisana nobulili asebenza kuma-NGO angama-700 emazweni angama-70 azibophezele ekuguquleni ubudoda. Ukusuka ekuvimbeleni udlame olubhekiswe kwabesifazane kanye namantombazane ukuya ekukhulumeni ngezempilo namalungelo abantu besifazane; kusukela emikhankasweni yokulwela ukuba obaba kuya ekukhuliseni abafana abanempilo. Umagazini engiwuhlelayo, Izwi Lowesilisa, sekuyiminyaka ilandisa le mizamo.
Ngakho-ke zibuze: kungani cishe kungekho muntu ocabanga ngobulili lapho ecubungula ukudutshulwa kwabantu abaningi? Noma, ngaleyo ndaba, lapho sicabanga ukuthi singabavikela kanjani kangcono abantu bemibala, abantu be-LGBTQIA, amaSulumane namaJuda lapho sihlaselwa? Ngoba sicabanga ukuthi abenzi bobubi kuzoba amadoda, ngokuvamile abelungu. Ukube abesifazane bebengabadubuli e-El Paso noma e-Dayton, yilokho kuphela ebesizobe sikhuluma ngakho, akunjalo? (Kusho ukuthi uma abadubuli bekungabantu abanemibala.)
It is ubudoda, abantu. Ukubhekana nokudutshulwa kwabantu abaningi ngaphandle kokwenza ubulili kube yingqikithi yenkulumo-mpikiswano kufana nokulindela isihlalo esinemilenze emithathu ukuma ngemilenze emibili. Ukubekela inselele imithetho yezibhamu ebuthakathaka noma engenawo futhi nokukhomba ukuthi izinselele zempilo yengqondo yesibili akwanele. Kumele sigxile ebudodeni.
Uma uvuma, yenza okungaphezu nje kokunxenxa abameleli bakho obakhethile. Blast social media; vusani imiphakathi yenu yezenkolo, izikole zenu. Funa ukusakazwa kwabezindaba, futhi. Ukuhlonipha izinkumbulo zababulewe, kanye nokududuza abalimele kanye nemindeni yabo, okuncane kakhulu esingakwenza.
Rob Okun ([i-imeyili ivikelwe]), ehlanganiswe ngu PeaceVoice, ungumhleli we Izwi Lowesilisa kanye nelungu lekomiti eqondisayo yaseNyakatho Melika MenEngage.Uhlelo olusha lwe-anthology yakhe, VOICE MALE: The Untold Story of the Profeminist Men's Movement, yanyatheliswa ngo 2018.
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