I
ngibe nomzuzwana wokudideka muva nje ngipakisha uhambo oluya eNew
Orleans ukudingida udaba lokushada kwabantu bobulili obufanayo. Ngizobe ngithatha
ohlangothini oluvuna umshado wobulili obufanayo nakuba nganginakho okukhulu
ukugxekwa ngokuthi kube kanjani ukuphela kwento entsha
"I-ajenda yezitabane." Umphikisi wami kungaba umvangeli ophiko lwesokudla
UmProthestani. Inkulumompikiswano izoba se-Loyola University, i-liberal
Isikole samaJesuit esikusifundabhishobhi esilondoloza kakhulu kwesinye sezifunda zase-US
amadolobha adume kakhulu ocansi kanye nephathi. Ngangingenaso isiqiniseko sokuthi kufanele yini
iphakethe Thomas Aquinas sika
ISumma
Imfundiso yenkolo
, iBhayibheli lami, izaphulelo zami zesikhumba, noma konke okungenhla.
Empeleni,
ukudideka kwami โโkwakungenxa yokuthi ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ngaphambili nganginakho
ebhalwe i-eseyi (etholakala kuwebhu) ezwakalise ukubhukha
mayelana nokugxila okukodwa kwenhlangano ye-GLBT endabeni yomshado.
Ngabe bekulindeleke ukuthi ngithathe uhlangothi lomshado wezitabane noma olwa? Lokhu
ukudideka kwasuswa ezinsukwini ezimbalwa kamuva lapho ngithola ukulandelelwa
i-imeyili engazisa ukuthi ophikisana nami kuzoba yiJaji uDarrell White,
co-director we-Louisiana Family Forum, isahluko sendawo sa
Gxila eMndenini kanye namandla amakhulu enkolweni eqinile
ezombusazwe eLouisiana. Ukube bekungacaci ngaphambili, bekungacacile
manje: ngase ngingene โemshadweni wobulili obufanayo manjeโ
i-bandwagon.
Naphezu kwalokho
lokhu kubhuka kokuqala, ngangizimisele ukwenza konke okusemandleni ami hhayi kuphela
ekuphikisaneni ohlangothini olusekela izitabane, kodwa nasekugcineni kwami โโngokungangabazeki
imibono engalungile ye-Southern Protestant conservatism at bay.
Ngithole ithuba lokuzijwayeza ukuba nesizotha ngesikhathi ngihlangana neJaji eliMhlophe
isidlo sangaphambi kwengxoxo. Wangishaya njengomuntu omnandi, ophapheme, okhaliphile
indoda ene-Southern gentility ne-charm yakudala. Ngacabanga okwethu
isingeniso impumelelo. Angizange nje ngimbize nge-homophobe,
Ngangingafuni nokufuna. Ngangingazi ukuthi, naphezu kwalokho
ijaji laseLouisiana bonhomie, wayengahlosile ukuba nesizotha
noma ukubekela eceleni imibono osuyicabangele esiteji.
The
ifomethi yengxoxo yethu bekuyiqembu lezingxoxo lesikole samabanga aphezulu.
Besizoxoxa ngombuzo othi, โIngabe Kufanele Ukushada Kobulili Obufanayo
Ingabe Senziwe Ngokomthetho E-United States?โ Njengoba ngithatha i
isikhundla sokuqinisekisa, ngizohamba kuqala ngemizuzu eyi-15 ukwenza yami
icala; U-White uzolandela ngemizuzu engu-15 ukuphikisa ukuthi kungani umshado wobulili obufanayo
akufanele kwenziwe kube semthethweni. Sonke sizonikezwa imizuzu emihlanu
phendula. Bese kuba namasethi amabili ezimpendulo zabafundiโpro
kanye ne-con-kulandelwa imibuzo evela ezilalelini. Ngemva kweminyaka
yemihlangano yepolitiki yezitabane lapho wonke umuntu ethethisana,
wemihlangano yezombangazwe lapho izinhlangothi eziphikisanayo zazihuba imizwa emibi
ngazwi linye, le fomethi yayibonakala isikhulile kakhulu.
I
yethule inkulumo yami. Yayiqinile, kodwa i-lithe, iphuzu nephuzu
ingxabano (egcwele ama-aside ahlekisayo, kunjalo). ngaphikisana
ukuthi nakuba abantu bengase bangavumelani ngesimo senkolo sobulili obufanayo
umshado, umshado womphakathi wawumane nje uyinkontileka esemthethweni ekhishwe yi-
uhulumeni, ngaphansi komthetho womthethosisekelo, okwakumele atholakale kuye
abobulili obufanayo kanjalo nabobulili obuhlukile. Okubaluleke kakhulu, bekungaba
ungacekeli phansi umshado kanye nomndeni onobulili obuhlukile, kodwa unikeze imali
kanye nezinzuzo ezingokomthetho kusethi entsha yamayunithi omndeni angakwazi
sebenza kuphela ukuze kuzuze umphakathi jikelele. Kunokuba siphikisane njengoba
"isishoshovu songqingili," ngenza udaba lwami njengommeli wezenhlalo
kanye nobulungiswa bezomnotho. โUkushada kwezitabane ngeke kusize izitabane kuphela
amadoda kanye nongqingili,โ ngaphikisa, โkodwa kuyozuzisa wonke umphakathi
ngokuletha uzinzo nempilo emindenini eyengeziwe.โ (Kamuva,
ekuphenduleni kwami โโijaji, ngithe ukuzinza komndeni kanye
impilo izothuthukiswa ngempumelelo ngempilo yendawo yonke
ukunakekelwa, iholo eliphansi elingu-$15 ngehora, uxhaso lwenhlangano lwabazali aba
hlala ekhaya ukuze unakekele izingane, ucansi nempilo ephelele
imfundo, ukuvimbela inzalo mahhala ngokufunwa, kanye nokunakekelwa kwasemini kubo bonke abakwenzayo
ngiyayifuna futhi ngiyayidinga.)
Ngemva
izethameli zabafundi abangu-200 nabanye ababoshelwe emphakathini waseLoyola
wangishaya ihlombe ngentshiseko futhi waqinisa kancane, uMhlophe waqala eyakhe
khuluma. Angazi kahle ukuthi bengilindeleni. Phela wayenjalo
ivangeli laseNingizimu elinobudlelwane obuqinile nokuzonda ongqingili ngonya
Gxila Emkhayeni. Noma kunjalo, ngangivakashele i-Louisiana Family Forum
iwebhusayithi futhi wakhangwa isithombe esihle sejaji
nomkhaya wakheโunezingane ezingu-7 ezineminyaka esukela kweyisi-6 kuye kweyi-XNUMX
31 Uma kubhekwa nokuthi uMahluleli oMhlophe wayeyilokho kanyeโijaji, nokho
owayesethathe umhlalaphansi enkantolo kamasipala yaseBaton Rougeโngacabanga kanjalo
wayezokwenza lokho engangikwenzile: amise ingxabano yakhe ngezomthetho futhi
izindaba eziphathelene nomthethosisekelo.
Imagine
ukumangala kwami โโlapho iJaji Elimhlophe liqala ingxenye yalo yenkulumo-mpikiswano
ngokuchaza ukuthi zonke izitabane zazigula ngengqondo. Isinqumo sango-1973
yi-American Psychiatric Association (APA) ukuthatha ubungqingili
Uhlu lweziyaluyalu, wathi, kwakuyitulo lokulwela inkululeko yezitabane.
Wabe eseqhubeka kabanzi ngabantu abalala nezilwane,
okuyinto, ngokusho kwejaji, okuyolandela ngokunengqondo kusukela ekugunyazweni
womshado wobulili obufanayo. Uphinde waveza ukuthi izishoshovu ezizitabane ziyanxenxa
i-APA ukuze iguqule iphrofayili yayo yokuxilonga ye-pedophilia. Bese yena
wakhuluma okwengeziwe ngocansi nezilwane. Ingabe kwakukhona okuthile nge-Louisiana
Ngangiphuthelwe ezincwajaneni zokuhamba? Ibingekho inja emgwaqeni ephephile
kusuka emadodeni angama-gay angahleliwe anamalayisense omshado afuna umngane womshado? I
yayinomfanekiso kaMahluleli Omhlophe othini lomshaneloโi-la the Wicked
Umthakathi phakathi
The Wizard of Oz
- indiza phezu kwekota yesiFulentshi
ememeza, โSizokutholaโฆkanye nenja yakho encane futhi.โ
The
ujaji wabe esefunda ihlaya elide, eliqhuga kakhulu (manje elijikelezayo
amawebhusayithi aphiko lwesokudla) lapho umabhalane wedolobha laseSan Francisco emyeka khona
umsebenzi lapho ebhekene nokushada uchungechunge ngokuya ngokudideka
abantuโama-zoophile, izelamani zabesilisa, kanye ne-schizophrenic enababili
ubuntu abafuna ukuzishada. Wakulandela lokho
ucezu oluvela eBangor, Maine, iphephandaba lapho indoda, eyayikhona
ngokusobala ugula ngengqondo, wamemezela ukuthi useshade nenja yakhe.
U-White uqhubekile nokudweba izwe eligijima ngokunemba kwezepolitiki,
lapho abafundi besikole samabanga aphansi bephoqeleka ukuba benze ucansi "ukuqeqeshwa kabusha"
futhi izishoshovu eziwumqemane ziketula iSonto LamaKatolika ngokucwasa
imithetho. Ekugcineni, wamemezela ukuthi umshado wobulili obufanayo โuyinhlambaโ
kubantu bobulili obuhlukile ngoba kwakusho ukuthi abazali ababili bobulili obuhlukile
ucansi nje belungadingekile.
Kodwa
okumangazayo ngisho nangaphezu โkwecalaโ lejaji
ngokungaqondile, njengoba kusobala ukuthi wayengalungiselelanga inkulumo-mpikiswano-kwakunjalo
ukusabela kwami โโkukho. Impela, ngangicasulwe yinkulumo yejaji ehlaza,
kubi, futhi ngokuvamile kuvame ukuzondwa ubungqingili bentsha, kodwa futhi ngangicasukile. I
wayemiswe e-altare lokuxoxisana nomphakathi. Ngangithathile
isikhathi sokubhala inkulumo enezimpikiswano ezinengqondo, zokwahlulela. Eyami
Umphikisi yena wayekhafula inhlamba ehlotshiswe ngezinkulumo
amanikiniki, ayenokuxhumana okungacacile kuphela endabeni eyayikhona.
Okwesikhashana ngesikhathi ijaji lethula inkulumo eyinqaba, ngazizwa
njengomuntu omenywe ephathini yemvunulo ovela ku-Anna
Imvunulo kaMay Wong, uthole ukuthi wudaba olusemthethweni.
Kuya
kulungile, amanye amalungu ezithameli anyonyoba ezingxenyeni ze-White's
inkulumo (ngiyavuma ngasese ukuthi ngikuthokozele kakhulu lokhu). Kodwa
ekuphenduleni kwami, ngakugwema ngokucophelela ukugcona ukungaphikisani kwakhe okuwubuwula
futhi wazama ukukhombisa ukuthi isifiso sakhe sokugcina imindeni nezingane
ubengasizwa umshado wobulili obufanayo. Impendulo kaMhlophe? Konke
Izimpi zamasiko, wamemezela, zehlela ku, "Who sez?" Bese,
ephakamisa iBhayibheli lakhe ezilalelini, wamemezela: โNgithi,
'Yena'. Kwaba nokunyakaziswa okuncane kuphela. Ngiyacabanga
izethameli zamangala kancane ngalezi zeshashalazi ezingakhulumi. I
izimpendulo zabafundi, nokho, zadabula isimo. Amadoda amabili
ngoba uhlangothi lomshado osekela izitabane lwalucacile futhi luhlaba; abaphikisana nabo,
owesifazane nowesilisaโbobabili amalungu e-Compass, esikole
iqembu lamaKhatholika elilandela izimisoโlaphikisana ngokwemfundiso yenkolo nangokomthetho
ngokumelene nomshado wobulili obufanayo, futhi ngenkathi ngingavumelani nabo, bona
bebehlakaniphile futhi behlonipha isihloko, esithangamini, futhi
kubantu abayizitabane.
In
ukubheka emuva, kunjalo, bekungafanele ngimangale iJaji
Imigilingwane emhlophe. Okubalulekile ukuthi awekho umthetho omuhle
izizathu zokuphikisa ukushada kwabantu bobulili obufanayo. (Nakuba ngikholelwa ukuthi lapho
ezinye izizathu ezinhle eziyisisekelo zokubuza ukuthi ziwusizo kangakanani
ezimpilweni zabantu.) Yingakho kwadingeka asebenzise innuendo,
amanga, nenhlamba. Kwakungenandaba nokuthi lokhu bekungenjalo
indawo noma isixuku sayo, ijaji laliyindoda emishini
ayilungiselelwanga ingxabano noma umqondo ophusile.
Lezi
izinsuku engingakaze ngihlangane nazoโekusondeleni, noma kunjaloโabantu
ongavumelani nami ngokuqinile noma alahle ukuthi ngingubani. Ngangibhekile
phambili engxoxweni enamandla nesitha nakho konke engihambe nakho
kwabaโngaphandle kokungahloniphiโusizi olujulile. Mhlawumbe okwengeziwe
kunanoma yini, ukudabuka kwami โโkwakusekelwe ekuhlaleni kwejaji
ukucela ukulala nezilwane ukuze kuhlaselwe ubudlelwano bobulili obufanayo. Kudabukisa kanjani
ukuthi indoda ethi ingumKristuโnoma iyiphi inkolo, ngempelaโingayenza
uzizwe uphoqelekile ukuba ugobe phansi ukuze uthole amaphuzu. Kodwa futhi yakhumbuza
Ngalokho okwaphawulwa ngu-Abraham Joshua Heschel, ikhulu lama-20 elikhulu
Umcabango ongumJuda: silahlekelwa ilungelo lokukhonza uNkulunkulu lapho siphika
ubuntu kwabanye. Okungukuthi, enye indlela yokusho lokho
uma kuyilokhu isitha sethu okufanele silwe nakho, sesivele sinqobile.
UMichael Bronski
ubhala njalo ngamasiko kanye nezindaba ezithinta izitabane. Eyakhe yakamuva
incwadi i
I-Pulp Friction
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