Othandekayo uAndrea Dworkin,
Andikholelwa ukuba bendikukhumbula yonke le minyaka! Ndisandula ukufunda kwiGazi Lethu kwaye iyitshintshile indlela endiziva ngayo ngehlabathi. Zimbalwa kakhulu iincwadi ezinokukwenza oko. Ipeni iwile; amaqhekeza ambalwa ejigsaw avele awela endaweni yawo.
Ndichukumiseke kakhulu kubuninzi bengcinga endibenayo malunga nobufazi kunye nengcinezelo yabasetyhini-ingcinezelo yam. Ingcinga yokuqala yeyokuba andicinezelwa; ukuba amawaka eminyaka yentiyo nokukhotyokiswa kwamabhinqa akubanga nampembelelo kum. Ngandlela ithile bekufanele ukuba ndihambe nayo. Kodwa ndiye ndaqaphela ezinye izinto ngam.
Indlela endingatsho ngayo xa abantu bendenza umsindo kuba besoyika ukubacaphukisa.
Indlela kubomi bemihla ngemihla, andikwazi kuthetha ngeemvakalelo zam zokwenyani - ndingasathethi ke ngokubabonisa.
Indlela endimele ukuba ngunozakuzaku kwaye ndisindise ngayo iimvakalelo zabanye abantu - nangayiphi na indleko, amaxesha amaninzi iindleko zokuziva ndixabisekile njengoko ikuphela kwento endinokuyilawula.
Njani, ngasizathu sithile, andinabuganga.
Indlela andisazazi nokuba zithini iimvakalelo zam.
Indlela andisazazi nokuba ndifuna ntoni.
Ndikwinkungu kwaye andiyifumani inkululeko yam apha.
Ndaye ndafunda incwadi yakho, ndibukele ikliphu yakho uthetha kwi-Youtube, kwaye ngequbuliso le nto ayisekho ngam. Ayisekho into ekufuneka ndithathe uxanduva ngayo kuphela. Ayisekho into endihlala nayo kuba ndicinga ukuba lityala lam - ukuba ngokuzenzekelayo ndibekek' ityala.
Kwaye ndiyaqonda ukuba akukho nto ndihamba nayo - kuba ndikhulele kwinkcubeko ejijekileyo ngolu hlobo. Ndiye ndakhula ndijijekile ngalendlela kwaye bekungekho ndlela bendinokuyiphepha ngayo. Akukho ndlela yokuba nabani na wayenokuyiphepha – indoda okanye ibhinqa.
Kwaye akukho namnye umntu owenze ngale ndlela - kukho iibhiliyoni. Iibhiliyoni kuyo yonke imbali. Omabini amadoda nabafazi ababengabaxoleli bamadoda ngokukhanyela ngokuphandle ingcinezelo yabo. Ukuba bendikhe ndafuna impindezelo yegazi ndiza kuthintelwa ngoko nangoko. Akukho bulungisa bolu hlobo kum okanye nakubani na.
Kodwa ke ubulungisa bolu hlobo yeyona nto isikhokhelele apha sonke. Bubundlobongela obu ndithetha ngabo. Ubundlobongela obukhoyo kuyo yonke indawo kwaye buxhaswa yinto endiyibiza ngokuba buBundlobongela bokuQala - obo bundlobongela obenzelwe ukulawula abantu basetyhini kwaye iseyinto elawula abasetyhini. Ubundlobongela obufanayo obuye bachitha ubudlelwane babantu kunye nomhlaba.
Abafazi babengabantu bokuqala bomthonyama, amakhoboka okuqala, abokuqala ukuphulukana namalungelo abo, ukwenziwa iimbacu ezingenamakhaya (abasuswe emizimbeni yabo), batshatyalaliswe baze babhangiswe. Abantu banokuthi le yi-hyperbole kodwa ndithi 'yenziwe yaphela' ngenjongo. Kuba laa nxalenye yam ingumfazi wasendle nokhululekileyo imkile. Kwaye yayiyingcinga yam leyo-yokuba ibiselapha ndaweni ithile-izimele nje ukuba ingabonwa, ilungele ukubuyela ngaphakathi kwaye isisindise sonke. Hayi - loo ngcinga ayilunganga kuba loo nto itshatyalaliswe ngempumelelo. Ifile yaye ibolile.
Ke akukho ziphelo zentsomi apha. Kuphela amagwababa ukukha kunye nomoya ukumunca.
Iingqikelelo - okanye ndiza kubabiza ngokuba bubuxoki. Ubuxoki obuvunyiweyo ndabuxelelwa ndaphinda ndazixelela ukuba ngowam. Kukho iimpukane kuthi emva koko. Ubuxoki obulandelayo kukuba abo balwela ubulungisa kwezentlalo - abo baye balwa ingcinezelo - okanye abo bazabalazela ukukhanyiselwa ngokomoya ngandlel 'ithile, ngenxa yolu Mmandla, basinde ekubunjweni kwabo kunye nokujijwa yinkcubeko yoBundlobongela bokuQala kwabasetyhini. Enyanisweni, abo balwa umlo omhle baye bahlala bethengisa kwaye bahlala bethengisa xa kuziwa ekukhululeni abafazi.
Jonga umboniso wamva nje eGlasgow ngokuchasene neRhafu yegumbi lokulala. Ngethuba ilungu leKomiti yeeNgxoxo kwi-Socialist Workers Party, u-Dave Sherry, enyuka ukuze athethe wakhwankqiswa ngabasetyhini kwinginginya. Oku kungenxa yokuba i-SWP iye yaqhuba ‘ityala lodlwengulo’ langaphakathi kwaye yafumanisa ukuba umtyholwa wayengenatyala lokudlwengula kwaye owasetyhini obandakanyekayo wayelixoki. Ngaphandle kokuba ingengomcimbi weqela kodwa umba wamapolisa ebekufanele ukuba umxhaswe ngawo-impendulo kuqhanqalazo oluchasene noDave Sherry ibiqulathe ezi zimvo zilandelayo, phakathi kwezinye:
‘“Vala umlomo”, ukushiya idemo yeRhafu yegumbi lokulala kwaye “ubuyele kwidemo yakho yodlwengulo”’.
Eli nqaku lihlabela mgama lichaza oko kwenzekayo phakathi kwesihlwele nendlela amagosa ayisingatha ngayo loo meko. Kwanele ukuthi impendulo ngokuchasene noqhanqalazo lwaba basetyhini yayikhawuleza kwaye inobundlobongela kwaye ingumntu. Ayetyholwa ngokuphazamisa abantu kwimibandela yokwenene, yokuba ngabakumgangatho ophakathi. Amagosa azama ukubagxotha ngokoqobo. (Jonga inqaku elipheleleyo apha: http://athousandflowers.net/2013/03/31/this-is-a-tax-demo-why-dont-you-go-back-to-your-rape-demo/).
Ingakanani i-feminism eye yabekelwa bucala xa bekufanele ukuba ibe ngumba ekuxhomekeke kuwo yonke enye into kwiphulo lenkululeko. Nabani na, kuyo yonke imbali erekhodiweyo, uye weza ngokufanelekileyo kubafazi kwaye waphelisa uBundlobongela bokuQala? Into ekude, enzulu kakhulu kwaye engqongqo ngakumbi kunamathuba alinganayo umthetho okanye ilungelo lokuzikhethela labasetyhini liyafuneka. I-suffragettes ayizange iqhekeze iifestile zeebhanki okanye ithumele i-shit kwabezopolitiko okanye bancothule ubomi babo kwaye baphulukane ngabantwana babo kunye namakhaya ngenxa yento engaphezulu kunye ne-bureaucratic kunye nobudenge obungenangqondo - nto leyo amalungelo alinganayo abasetyhini enziwe kuwo. Ilifa labo lisalindele ukubangwa.
Kwaye oku kusilela ukujongana noBundlobongela bokuQala - seso sizathu sovukelo oluninzi luguqukele kubuzwilakhe. Kutheni ubukhoboka bungapheliswa ngenene kodwa butshintsha ubume kwaye buphile ngokufihlakeleyo kummelwane. Kutheni ubulungisa lusilela amaxesha ngamaxesha kwaye kutheni iimfazwe ukopha zihlala ngaphandle kokuyeka. Kutheni abantu abaninzi kangaka bomthonyama besakhutshelwa ecaleni kwaye bebulawa. Kutheni umhlaba uqhubeka ukutshatyalaliswa kwaye sibonakala singenamandla okukumisa. Siyasilela ukujongana naloo nto isisiseko kuzo zonke ezinye izinto. Yeyona nto isijongileyo ebusweni - ukukhotyokiswa kwabasetyhini kumyalelo wehlabathi wendoda kunye nokuqhubekeka koBundlobongela bokuQala obungajongwanga.
U-Andrea, ubhale malunga nababhubhisi - indlela amakhoboka angamadoda akhululwa ngayo kodwa akukho mabhinqa (kuquka abo bagqilazwe ngumtshato) - indlela amadoda avala ngayo amabhinqa emva kokuba ubukhoboka bupheliswe amadoda. Kwaye ke ukungcatshwa kuyaqhubeka, yiyo loo nto ingcinezelo ingasoze iphele nakubani na, indoda okanye umfazi.
Kwaye ngoku siza kwisondo. Inxalenye yayo yonke le nto ekugqibeleni yakubhukuqa. Bonke bakufumana ngesondo. Uthe uphambene kwaye ulixoki xa usithi udlwengulwe. Xa ungafuni ukujonga ecaleni kodwa ubone udlwengulo wachaza udlwengulo owalubonayo nowalufumana. Ubusondele ngokwenene – kodwa loo mawaka eminyaka yengcinezelo yawela phakathi kwethu ngokubetha kwentliziyo. Ndide ndayifunda incwadi yakho ndakubona kuYoutube, ndifunde okanye ndive ukuba omnye umntu utheni ngawe.
Uchazile indlela uthando lwasimahla kunye nenguquko yezesondo ngexesha leminyaka engamashumi amathandathu emva koko yafakwa imali kwaye yathengiswa njengenxalenye yoshishino lwezonografi kwiminyaka yamashumi asixhenxe nasemva koko. Kwakhona-ndiye ndaqala ukubona into malunga nesondo.
Ndandingazi ukuba ndingala ukuvuma. Ndiyaloyika ubundlobongela beminyaka eliwaka obuza kukwala. Ndizigcina kude ngokwesini ngenxa yoloyiko oluzuzwe njengelifa lokudlwengulwa nogonyamelo. Andikwazi ukukhusela umzimba wam kwaye oku kutyhefe amandla am obomi kunye nentando yam kwizinto zonke. Ndihlala kwifantasy kunye nengqondo yam apho isondo liye lachithwa. Ekuphononongeni ukumila kwesi sini ukuzama ukophula uloyiko lwam lobundlobongela ndifumene indawo engapheliyo, engenanto apho imvakalelo yam yomda kunye nokuzixabisa kufuneka ibekho. Ndehlule njani nam. Ndibunjwe ngolo hlobo.
U-Andrea - uchaza indlela imboni yezoonografi ithethe ngayo ukukhotyokiswa kwabasetyhini ngaphezu kwenkululeko kwaye kwakhona kufuneka ndivume ukuba ndicinge ngokuchaseneyo.
Kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo, i-porn yishishini kwaye isekelwe kwinzuzo phezu kwabantu kwaye ivela kumthombo ofanayo oxhasa iziko elisemthethweni lomtshato kunye neziko lenkcubeko yobudlelwane - ukunikezelwa kunye nokufumana kwabasetyhini ngemvume okanye ukuthatha abafazi ngaphandle kwemvume. Iinkqubo zethu zomthetho azijongeli phantsi kumalungelo abantu ababhinqileyo njengoko bezimele bodwa kodwa bawabeka kuphela ngokubhekisele ekubeni athathiwe okanye anikwe amadoda. Yile nto ndiyiqondayo xa wena Andrea ubhekisa kwisiko lodlwengulo.
Abasetyhini abaninzi banemibono yodlwengulo. Ngaba oku kuthetha ukuba bonke bafuna ukudlwengulwa - nto leyo ecingelwayo kwinkcubeko yethu? Ubuxoki kukuba iphonografi idlula ngokuzenzekelayo ubundlobongela bokwenyani njengoko iyinto nje ehlekisayo kunye nokhetho olukhululekileyo - ke kutheni mna kunye nabanye abafazi abaninzi besoyika ukubuza oku, ukuxoxa ngayo kwaye bajonge nzulu ngakumbi? Kutheni sisoyika ukuba nengxaki ngamanyala? Ayiyonto inye nothando olukhululekileyo. Ayisiyonto ifana nokwenza uthando okanye ukuxhasa ukuhlola ngokwesondo. Akunjalo into efanayo nesondo njengamava omzimba wonke okanye amava okomoya. Kutheni thina ngokwenkcubeko yethu sisilela ukukhangela into esempilweni kunokuba sinyamezele elona qondo liphantsi liqhelekileyo? Ngaba iimeko zoqoqosho ezimaxongo kubafazi abaninzi ehlabathini jikelele zongeza kwimvume yasimahla nenolwazi kwicala labo, umzekelo? Jonga nje izigidi zabasetyhini kunye namantombazana angaphantsi kweminyaka eyi-14 athengiswa kwishishini lamakhoboka-phonografi minyaka le.
Inyaniso yinto eyenzekayo ngokwenene kukufudumala kunye nokuthambileyo. Kwimizimba yabafazi. Akukho khuseleko kwifantasy - kuphela ukukhuselwa kwengqondo ekuqondeni okungakuthandiyo. Yintoni oku kuqonda?
Ukuba abafazi bathiyiwe. Hayi ngabanye kodwa xa iyonke - njengenkcubeko. Kulo lonke uncwadi, ubugcisa, ishishini, inkolo, umthetho, imithombo yeendaba, phakathi kobudlelwane, kuzo zonke iindawo zoluntu nakuzo zonke iinkcubeko zoluntu; abafazi bathiywa ngamadoda nabona ngokwabo. Kwaye le asiyofashoni edlulayo – into enokuthi ijikwe ngenguquko eyodwa okanye isiphithiphithi ekuhlaleni. Ngamawakawaka eminyaka yentiyo nengcinezelo.
Kwakutheni ukuze ubulawe uAndrea Dworkin? Wena kunye nabaninzi besizukulwana sakho sabasetyhini abagwetywe, banyeliswa, badlwengulwa, bancitshiswa kwaye banyeliswa. Abo bafeminist bazibulalayo, abo bafa ziintliziyo ezaphukileyo. Abo banyanzelwa phantsi komhlaba ukuze basinde. Wenziwa watshabalala kwaye oku koyikeka kufuneka kuqondwe.
Kwaye ke ngoku ndijika ndinentliziyo enzima kwilishwa elifanayo. Njengoko ndiqinisekile ukuba ukulwa oku kusekwa okuye kwahlala ixesha elide ndiya kuba phantsi konyango olufanayo. Kodwa ubufuna ukubona ngokucacileyo kwaye nam ndifuna ukubona ngokucacileyo. Andiyi kuphinda ndibhadule enkunguni okanye ekukhanyeni kancinci.
Ndithumela umnxeba ocacileyo kubafazi ngoku ukuba bavuke baphume kwimbewu eyomileyo yeminqweno yethu efileyo kunye nomgquba wentlango yethu engasekhoyo kwaye bahlangane ukuze benze UMFAZI kwakhona.
Ixesha likaMakhulu Omdala lizoveza inyani. Eli lilifa lakho, Andrea-i-chink yakho yokukhanya ukusikhuthaza ukuba siqale kwakhona.
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