Umthombo: Inyaniso
Intombazana enye kwamane kunye nenkwenkwe enye kwabathandathu amava okuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwabo kwe-18th. Amashumi alithoba anesithathu ekhulwini okuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kwabantwana ngamalungu entsapho okanye abantu abamaziyo umntwana, ingengabo abantu basemzini abahleli emthunzini.
Singaluphazamisa njani kwaye siluphelise njani ukuxhatshazwa kwabantwana ngokwesondo ngaphandle kokujikela emapoliseni nakwindawo yoshishino yentolongo enocalucalulo eyenza ulwaphulo-mthetho ngokungafanelekanga, ibambe kwaye ivalele abantu abaNtsundu kunye nabeMthonyama, iqhubela phambili ukungazinzi kwiintsapho zabo kunye noluntu?
Umenzi wefilimu u-Aishah Shahidah Simmons uye wazama ukufumana iimpendulo, ngakumbi egxile kuxhatshazo lwabantwana ngokwesondo kwiintsapho zabaNtsundu kunye noluntu, okokuqala ngqa. iqonga kwi Ucingo lobufazi kwaye ngoku i-anthology Uthando NGOKUTHOBELEKA: Ukugrumba iingcambu zokuxhatshazwa kwabantwana ngokwesondo.
Ebhekisa kwizincoko ezingama-40, uxelele Thunti, โEndinethemba lokuba le ncwadi ibonelela ngeemephu zeendlela ezingama-40 apho abantu banokuhlola, bacinge ngezinto ezibadibanisayo, abangabaziyo, abangabaziyo, bangazibandakanyi, nokuba kutheni, baze babe nezi ncoko.โ
Kuba Simmons, 2006 documentary HAYI! Uxwebhu lodlwengulo iphonononga udlwengulo oluchasene nesini esahlukileyo kunye nobundlobongela kuluntu lwabaNtsundu, umbuzo ukwangowomntu. Njengomntwana wabaququzeleli bentshukumo, uSimmons uchithe ixesha elongeziweyo phantsi kokhathalelo lukamakhulu wakhe kunye notatomkhulu wakhe, "Pop-Pop," ngelixa abazali bakhe basebenza, bahamba kwaye baququzelela. Kwiminyaka emibini ngexesha lokufikisa kwakhe, uSimmons waxhatshazwa yiPop-Pop. Kungekudala emva kokuba kuqaliswe ukuxhatshazwa, waxelela abazali bakhe, kodwa uthi, โokulusizi kukuba, abazange bathethe, baphazamise okanye baphelise ubugrogrisi obungokwesini nokwenzakala okwalandelayo.โ Endaweni yoko, bathandabuza ukuba ngaba uxhatshazo lwenzekile kwaye, kangangeminyaka, baqhubeka bemthumela kwindlu kayisemkhulu noninakhulu.
Ngelixa izincoko zingaphakathi Uthando NGOKUTHOBELEKA zibhalwe ngabasindileyo abaMnyama ekuxhatshazweni kwabantwana ngokwesondo, i-anthology ihamba ngaphaya kwamava abo ukuze babone ukuba yintoni uxanduva - kunye nehlabathi apho abantwana bakholelwa kwaye bakhuselwe - banokubonakala ngathi.
Umthetho kaVictoria: Kwakutheni ukuze ukhethe ukugxila ngakumbi kuxhatshazo lwabantwana ngokwesondo kusapho lwabaNtsundu kunye noluntu?
Aishah Shahidah Simmons: Okokuqala nokuphambili, ndinguMnyama waseMelika waseMelika. Ndiyabona Uthando NGOKUTHOBELEKA njengokuqhubeka kwefilimu yam, HAYI! Uxwebhu lodlwengulo, ejonga ukudlwengulwa kwabantu besini esahlukileyo kunye nobundlobongela kwiindawo zabaNtsundu.
Ukuphathwa gadalala kwabantwana ngokwesondo sisenzo esibi sehlabathi, kodwa bendifuna ngokwenene ukuziqhelanisa noluntu endisuka kulo, uluntu lwabaNtsundu be-diasporic, kwaye ndijonge imiba yenkcubeko kunye neenkcukacha malunga nobundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo kunye nobuhlanga ngokwembono yabaNtsundu.
Inxalenye yengxaki yokuzama ukulungisa ukuxhatshazwa kwabantwana ngokwesondo kukuba sisazama ukukhusela amalungu osapho lwethu kurhulumente.
Sicinga ngesakhiwo sentolongo nemizi-mveliso. Abantu abantsundu bangaphakathi apho ngokungafaniyo; impendulo eqhelekileyo kubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo kukuba โfumana abenzi bobubi nibavaleleโโฆ. Ingaba uxanduva lujongeka njani, ngakumbi kwiminyaka yoBomi boMnyama? Sithetha njani ngobundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo ngeli lixa sisazi ngenene ubundlobongela obuvunywe ngurhulumente kunye nokongamela kwabamhlophe kuluntu lwabaNtsundu?
Kukho umxhasi omnye encwadini lowo umenzi wobubi usentolongweni. Xa wayexhatshazwa esengumntwana, usapho lwakhe lwamtyhola waza waya entolongweni. Uninzi lwabantu kwi-anthology, nangona kunjalo, abacingi ukuba sisisombululo. Sijongana njani nobu bubi ngaphandle kokuxhomekeka kwisixhobo sobulungisa bolwaphulo-mthetho esisiphathe ngenkohlakalo?
Asingobantu abantsundu kuphela abaye benzakaliswa ngurhulumente; Ndifuna ukucaca nyani ngalonto. Kwangaxeshanye, bendifuna ngokwenene ukuziphucula kumava aMnyama kwaye ndityhale ngokwenene iinkcazo malunga nokuba yintoni amava abaNtsundu.
Unethemba lokufezekisa ntoni ngale anthology?
Ndinethemba lengxoxo. Ndiyathemba iindawo apho sinokuba neengxoxo ezinzima kakhulu kwaye zinzima, kuba akukho mathandabuzo engqondweni yam, ukuthetha njengexhoba lokuxhatshazwa kwabantwana ngokwesondo, impembelelo ihlala ixesha elide. Sidibana njani naloo nto? Silungisa njani umonakalo owenziweyo?
Ukuba sinokuvuma ukoyikeka kwenkqubo yobulungisa kulwaphulo-mthetho kunye nesakhiwo sentolongo-yemizi-mveliso, ndicinga ukuba oko kungadala indawo eninzi yokuba sibe neengxoxo zokwenyani. Inxalenye yengxaki yokuzama ukulungisa ukuxhatshazwa kwabantwana ngokwesondo kukuba sisazama ukukhusela amalungu osapho lwethu kurhulumente. Okuninzi kunokutshintsha ukuba sinokuvula kwaye sithi, โIbukeka njani into yokuphendula? Ibonakala njani loo nto ukuba besisazi ukuba umntu akazukuvalelwa, kodwa sicacelwe ukuba kufuneka aphendule?โ
Into endiyithembayo kukuba le ncwadi ibonelela ngeemephu zendlela ezingama-40 apho abantu banokuphonononga khona, bacinge malunga nokuba yintoni ehambelana nabo, yintoni engalunganga kwaye kutheni, kwaye ube nezi ncoko. Ngelixa le ncwadi imalunga nabantu abaNtsundu, ndiyakholelwa ukuba inokusetyenziswa kwaye kufanele ukuba isetyenziswe ngabo bonke.
Kutheni ugqibe ekubeni ubhale ngamava akho?
Sonke sixakile. Uxhatshazo lwaphela ekugqibeleni. Andizange ndifumane isaziso sokuba ukuxhatshazwa kuyekile. Yayeka emva kweminyaka emibini, kodwa andizange ndiyazi ukukhula kwakhe ukuba wayeza kubuyela egumbini lam kwakhona.
Ukuphendula makungabi ligama elibi. Sonke sibangela umonakalo. Ndenze ububi. Kukho amaqondo obubi, kwaye ndiyazibuza ngoku ukuba ngubani wonzakele utat'omkhulu.
Ngokuhamba kwexesha, iPop-Pop yaba ngumsindisi wobomi kusapho. Umakhulu wam waba ne-Alzheimer kwaye akazange achithe usuku kwikhaya labalupheleyo. Ekuphela kwexesha awayesesibhedlele yayiziintsuku ezintathu zokugqibela zobomi bakhe. Kangangeminyaka eyi-10, utatomkhulu wayenyamekela umfazi wakhe ubusuku nemini. Ngoko ke sijongene nale ntlukwano yegorha elalihoye umfazi walo, umatriki kusapho, kunye nomnqolobi owandigrogrisa ndisengumntwana. Kwandithatha kakhulu ukugrumba zonke ezi zinto zintsonkothileyo kwaye ndiqonda ukuba le nto yenziwa ngutatomkhulu yayimbi kwaye ayinakuthetheleleka, kwaye abazali bam badlale indima njengababukeli.
Ndiqale ngo January 2015, ndikwi 40s, ndifuna incoko nabazali bam ngalento. Ndaqala ukusayina ii-imeyile zam, "Uthando NGOKUZIphendulela." Kulapho kuphuma khona oku: Into ebendiyithetha kukuba, Ndiyanithanda nonke, kwaye ndiyazi ukuba niyandithanda, kodwa nonke kufuneka niphendule ngeendlela eningandikhuselanga ngazo..
Oko kwakubaluleke kakhulu kuba abazali bam, abadibana njengamatsha ntliziyo e-SNCC โฆ Kum, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqaqambisa ukuba ndiyakholelwa ukuba kukho le ntsomi yokuba ngubani ovumela ukuxhatshazwa kwabantwana ngokwesondo ukuba kwenzeke okanye owenza gadalala ngokwesondo. Yiyo lonto ndathi utamkhulu wam wahoya umfazi wakhe for 10 years. Sihlala sijonge konke okuhle, konke okubi. Hayi ayinguwe. Intsonkothile. Eso sisiseko se Uthando NGOKUTHOBELEKA. Ivela kumava am aphilayo.
Ndifuna le ncwadi isetyenziswe kwimibutho yethu yobulungisa kwezentlalo. Besisoloko singqingiwe-ukusukela ngo-1492-kodwa kuninzi okwenzekayo apho ndingakwazi nokucinga, andingomzali, ukuba ndingayenza njani yonke le nto. Ufana, "Ndidinga ukuya kwindibano, kufuneka ndiye kwiintlanganiso," kwaye uzibuze, "Ngubani oza kuhoya umntwana wam?" Abazali bam kwakufuneka bakholelwe ukuba ndikhuselekile.
Umama waya eVietnam. Wayeyinxalenye yegqiza lokuqala lombutho ongekho phantsi kukarhulumente ukuya eVietnam kwangoko emva kwemfazwe kwaye ngenene waya eCambodia. UPol Pot waye watyhalwa ngasemva, kodwa wayesengaphakathi kulo mmandla. Ngelo xesha ndandixhatshazwa. Wayengekho kuMzantsi-mpuma Asia kangangeeveki ezintandathu.
Ndiyakholelwa ukuba kukho indlela yokujongana nomonakalo kwaye usenokwenza umsebenzi omangalisayo wentshukumo. Kodwa kufuneka sithethe ngayo.
Uthando lokuphendula beluya kujongeka njani kusapho lwakho?
Ngendibawela bacace gca ukuba bayandikholelwa kuba abacacanga. Impendulo yokuqala yaba yile, โUqinisekile ukuba awuphuphi? Unokuba namaphupha abonakala eyinyani.โ
Kwanokuba babengandikholelwa okanye babengaqinisekanga, ndandinqwenela ukuba babenokuthi kum, โSiyakukholelwa yaye siza kuhlolisisa oku.
Kuya kufuneka uxelele amaxhoba, "Ndiyakukholelwa." Ukuba kuvela ukuba umntu uxokile, ke sijongana nayo ngoko, kodwa ukuba ujonga izibalo, kuphela ipesenti encinci abo baxela uhlaselo bayaxoka. Masiqale ngenkolelo yokuba abantu bathetha inyani.
Ndihamba ndigibile kuba ngubani owaziyo ukuba umakhulu ebeza kuphendula njani? Ndivakalelwa kukuba iPop-Pop bekufanele ukuba kujongwana nayo, kwaye bekufanele ukuba kubekho iincoko malunga nale nto bendiyithethile. Kodwa naxa ndisitsho ngoku, ndinebhabhathane esuswini sam ngoba uNana ngewayendikholelwa? Kwakuza kwenzeka ntoni? Ndandisazi ukuba ngendingafuni ukuba uPop-Pop aye entolongweni. Ndikhumbula nje ndifuna ukuyeka. Ndandimthanda; Ndandifuna nje ukuba afaneleke ngendlela awayethetha ngayo nam.
Luyintoni uthando ngokuphendula?
Ukuphendula makungabi ligama elibi. Sonke sibangela umonakalo. Ndenze ububi. Kukho amaqondo obubi, kwaye ndiyazibuza ngoku ukuba ngubani wonzakele utat'omkhulu. Andiqondi ukuba sizalwa kwaye siqala ukuxhaphaza abantwana okanye ukudlwengula okanye ukubetha abantu nokubulala. Kwenzeka ntoni ebomini bomntu?
Xa ndicinga ngokuphendula, kuba neencoko apho sithetha ngokuthatha uxanduva lwezenzo zomntu kunye nokuphonononga ukuba ukuphiliswa kunokujongeka njani. Oko kusenokuthetha ukuba ungaze udibane nalo mntu kwakhona. Andikhuthazi ukuba โWonke umntu makazenzele kwaye abe lusapho olunye olonwabileyoโ kwaphela. Ndiyayihlonela into yokuba abanye abantu bathi, โAndifuni kuphinda ndimbone umntu ondenzakalisayo kwakhona.โ
Ndicinga ukuba umntu owenza umonakalo kufuneka aziswe ukuba wenze umonakalo kwaye kufuneka athathe uxanduva. Asibavumeli nje ukuba baphume kwikhonkco. Ngaba kufuneka baye kunyango? Yintoni ekufuneka yenzeke ukuqinisekisa ukuba, a.) ayiphindi yenzeke; kwandule ke b.) ukuba bangalungisa njani na, nokuba abathethisani nomntu lowo, kodwa nguwuphi umsebenzi ekufuneka bewenzile ukulungisa umonakalo?
Ngoku xa ucinga ngokuxhatshazwa kwabantwana ngokwesondo, ... xa ucinga ngotatomkhulu wam, ngendifuna ukuba aphendule. Mna ngokwam bendiya kufuna uxolo nokuba ingaphindi yenzeke kwaye ndivume ukuba yenzekile.
Ngendingazange ndifune ukuba agxothwe kusapho lwakhe, ngakumbi ngenxa yendima yakhe ekunyamekeleni umakhulu wam. Ukuba kwakungenguye, ngokuqinisekileyo ngewayekwikhaya labalupheleyo.
Le anthology ekuqaleni yayiyiforam elungiselelweyo Ucingo lobufazi. Thetha ngenkqubo yokucela iziphakamiso.
Siyabuza, โInokukhangeleka njani le nto? Sinokuyilungisa njani le nto? Kukhangeleka njani ukuba nehlabathi elingenakuxhatshazwa kwabantwana ngokwesondo?โ
Bendinomdla kakhulu wokufikelela kubantu abasebenzela ukuphelisa ubundlobongela, ngakumbi ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo. Wonke umntu wayenokubalisa ibali lakhe, kodwa i-caveat yayikukuba ngenene kufuneka ulungise kwisiqwenga sakho "singaluphazamisa njani kwaye siluphelise njani ubundlobongela." Ndicinga ukuba kukho into enamandla ekubaleni amabali, kodwa bendifuna ukuba oku kube sisixhobo soququzelelo. Ndandifuna ukuba sicinge ngento enokwenzeka. Ndihlala ndicinga ngoWalidah Imarisha - umbhali, umlweli kunye nomcimi wentolongo - xa ethetha intsomi eqikelelwayo namandla ayo ekucingeni ihlabathi elitsha. Siyabuza, โInokukhangeleka njani le nto? Sinokuyilungisa njani le nto? Kukhangeleka njani ukuba nehlabathi elingenakuxhatshazwa kwabantwana ngokwesondo?โ
Bekubalulekile ngokwenyani ngokwesincoko sokuvala ngo Edxie Betts, umlweli wenkululeko otyhalela phambili kwiinkcazelo zobundlobongela. Babeka yonke into malunga nokuba kuthetha ukuthini imvume, becinga ukuba eli lizwe alizange lisekelwe kulo. Sithetha ngemvume yokuba nomtsalane, kodwa kuthetha ukuthini oko? Isiseko selizwe sasimalunga nodlwengulo nokubulawa kwabantu, ngoko xa sithetha ngokuphazamisa udlwengulo, ithetha ukuthini loo nto?
ndiyabona Uthando NGOKUTHOBELEKA njengesiqalo, hayi isiphelo.
U-Simmons uququzelela ngokubambisana #FromNO2Love: Iforamu yabasetyhini abaNtsundu ekuphazamiseni ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo, eya kwenzeka ePhiladelphia ukususela ngo-Oktobha 31, 2019, ukuya kuNovemba 1, 2019.
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