Hazvisati zvanyanya kunonoka kune Chisarudzo cheGore Idzva cheVarume: kuti varatidzire nenhamba huru paKurume kwevakadzi vegore rino kupfuura kare. Kwese kwadziri kuitirwa muWashington, DC kana kuAnchorage, Alaska, ngatikurudzirei varume kuti vafambe vachitsvaga kuenzana kwevakadzi, uye kushandura hurume.
Kurwira kuenzana kwevakadzi kurwira chiremera, kururamisira, uye rusununguko mune zvese zvehupenyu hwevakadzi — kubva kumba kuenda kubasa, kubva muimba yekurara kuenda kubhodhi. Varume vakawandisa vanononoka kubvuma kusarongeka kunosangana nevakadzi. Kana tikakwanisa kubuda munzira yedu pachedu, kufema kuburikidza nekutya kwatinoita vakadzi vane simba—kana tagadzirira kutarisana nekutya kusiri iko kwechikadzi—kune nyika itsva yakamirira apo varume vachararama upenyu hwakapfuma, hunofadza zvikuru.
Kutanga muna 2017, varume vakapinda muKurume kwevakadzi kwekutanga muhuwandu hukuru. Kumarch kwegore rino ngatitsvagei varume vakawanda. Vatsvage mukamuri rekukiya uye neungano yechitendero; mutambo wepoker uye shopu yekofi. Vakoke kuti vasangotsigira kururamisirwa kwevakadzi chete, asi kuti vataurewo nezverusaruraganda rwemarudzi, hupfumi, chitendero, uye nharaunda.
Nedambudziko remamiriro ekunze riri kutyisidzira zvese, ngatikudzei Greta Thunberg uye vechidiki vari kukura simba rekupandukira; vari kukumbira tinoita zvinopfuura kungotaura nemuromo kupasi rinopisa nokuda kwokusakendenga kuzvidza varungu vane ropafadzo.
Chimbofunga: vakadzi (kusanganisira transwomen) ndivo vanonyanya kupukunyuka mhirizhonga yakanangana nevanhukadzi; vakadzi vanowana zvikamu zvina kubva muzvishanu zvezvinowanikwa nevarume; vakadzi (uye vana) vanotarisana nenjodzi huru kubva kunjodzi dzemamiriro ekunze; uye vakadzi vane kodzero dzekubereka dziri kushorwa. (Nzvimbo mapfumbamwe zvino inorambidza kubvisa pamuviri vakadzi vakawanda vasati vaziva kuti vane pamuviri.)
Vasingazununguki mukutsunga kwavo kugadzirisa zvakaipa izvi, vakadzi vari kutungamira shanduko yemagariro, kubva mumigwagwa kuenda kubhokisi rekuvhotera — kubva #Neniwo uye #TimesUp mafambiro kuvakadzi vakasarudzwa kuita chigaro muna 2018 na2019 muhuwandu husati hwamboitika. Pakati pechiono chavo ndechekuwana kururamisira kwevakadzi musangano varume vazhinji vanofunga nezvechikonzero chedu, zvakare. Kwezvizvarwa zviviri varume vemarudzi ese nemadzinza ese muUS nepasirese vanga vachishanda kudzivirira mhirizhonga mudzimba neyepabonde, uye kutsanangura patsva nekushandura pfungwa dzechinyakare nezvemurume, hubaba, uye hama. Izwi reMurume, magazini yandinopepeta, yanga ichinyora nhamburiko idzodzo kwemakumi matatu emakore uye chitsauko chinotevera cherungano urwu chichataurwa muchidimbu nevarume vanobatana nevakadzi pakufora nekupfuura.
Varume vangaitei? Kutanga, tora stock. Kufora kwevakadzi kunogona kukurudzira varume kuti vaongorore hupenyu hwedu, nhanho imwe neimwe mukana wekutsvagisa mweya, tichizvibvunza kuti takaita sei murusarura, rusarura uye kushungurudzwa kwevakadzi. Neruzivo rwatinowana, tinokwanisa kubatsira kushandura hunhu hwemurume — uye pachedu.
Ngatifambei semadzibaba, vachengeti, sekuru nevarairidzi, tichirera vakomana kuti vakoshese tsitsi pane makwikwi, kubatana pane kuzviparadzanisa nevamwe. Ngatifambei sevanakomana nevanin'ina, babamunini nevazukuru, avo vanoziva kuti "nyaya yakajairwa" urume hunomanikidza hupenyu hwedu hwepfungwa, hunotipofumadza kuti tisaone kuti tingave sei vanhu vakazara. Ngatifambei sevarume nevadiwa vanoziva kuti kana vanhukadzi vachiremekedzwa nekupihwa masimba, vanowedzera kufara uye ndizvo zvinoitawo munhu wese ari pedyo navo.
Ngatifambei nezvikwangwani zvinorava, “Izvi Ndizvo Zvinoratidzika Muiti Wevakadzi,” uye “Mumwe Murume Anorwisana Nechisimba Nevakadzi.” Tichange tichitevera mutsika yekuzvikudza yeimwe sangano renhoroondo: kodzero yevakadzi.
Gore rino rinoratidza 100th zuva rekurangarira kurwira kwevakadzi kuwana kodzero yekuvhota. Varume vakawanda vakazvipira kuchinangwa ichocho, vachifora seri kwemureza waiti, “Mubatanidzwa Wevarume Wevakadzi Vanotambura.” Ava “vanokwana” vakanga vakatsiga mukusimudzira kupiwa kodzero dzevakadzi. Vakatora danho. Uye gare gare mwedzi uno, vakakomberedzwa negungwa revakadzi vakapfeka ngowani dzepussycat vakatakura zviratidzo zvinoratidza kutsunga kwavo kusazodzokera shure, varume vanozomirawo. Kana kubatana nekudyidzana pakati pevakadzi nevarume makumi emakore apfuura hakuna chimwe chandidzidzisa, ndechekuti varume nevakomana vanogona kunge vari chikamu chekungofora kwevakadzi, asi shanduko inotungamirwa nevakadzi. Kana tichida kugadzirisa mapofu ehurume mukati medu, pane nzvimbo yevarume musangano iri. Hatifanirwe kusimuka, asi tinofanira kusimuka.
Syndicated by PeaceVoice, Rob Okun mupepeti we Voice Male magazini uye nhengo yebhodhi re North American MenEngage. Edition yechipiri yeanthology yake VOICE MALE: The Untold Story of the Profeminist Men's Movement yakabudiswa muna 2018. Anogona kusvikwa pa [email inodzivirirwa].
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