Ma kahi ʻauʻau lehulehu ma Morocco, ua nānā au i kahi ʻōpio e ʻauʻau ana i kona kupuna wahine. Hāpai ʻo ia i kēlā me kēia lālā, hoʻoneʻe i kona mau umauma ma ʻō a ma ʻaneʻi, a hoʻoneʻe i kona ʻōpū a hiki i kēlā me kēia māwae. Kū aʻela ʻo ia ma luna ona, kulou ʻo ia ma kona ʻaoʻao, a noho pū me ia me ka hoʻokomo ʻana i ka ʻiʻo i ka holoi ʻana i kona kupuna wahine. ʻO ke kopa ʻeleʻele i hana ʻia mai ka ʻaila ʻoliva i hoʻoheheʻe ʻia mai ka lole ʻeleʻele āna i hoʻohana ai e hoʻopau i ka ʻili make a me ka lepo. Ua loll ke kupunawahine i ka papahele ʻāleʻa me ka manaʻo.
Ma kahi kokoke, ʻelua mau wāhine waena i hoʻololi i ka holoi ʻana i kekahi i kekahi. E moe ana kekahi ma ka papahele a ʻo kekahi e hana ana ma luna o kēlā me kēia ʻīniha o kona kino - me ka noʻonoʻo, me ka ʻoluʻolu, a me ka pono. Ma hope iho, huki aʻela ka mea i loaʻa i ka manaʻo a pau a honi i kāna hoaaloha me he mea lā e ʻōlelo ana i ka mahalo. A laila hoʻololi lākou i nā hana, neʻe ka mea ʻōpala i kahi kūlana ma luna o ka papahele a hoʻohuli ʻia ka hana.
Ma o ka mahu, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i ka nui o nā wahine, ʻaʻahu ʻia kekahi a ʻaʻole kekahi, e noho paʻa a i ʻole nā hui liʻiliʻi - hoʻomaʻemaʻe ʻia nā mea a pau. No kēia mau wahine Moroccan, ʻo ka kipa ʻana i ka hammam he hana pule pule e hiki ai i ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe hohonu wale nō akā no ka launa pū kekahi. Noʻu, he kanaka komohana i maʻa i ka ua kūʻokoʻa a ʻaʻohe olohelohe lehulehu, he hōʻike ka hammam. Inā maikaʻi ʻole ka nānā ʻana ma lalo o nā kūlana maʻamau, ʻoi aku ka ʻoi aku o ka ʻoi aku o ka olohelohe o ka poʻe a puni ʻoe, akā naʻe he mea paʻakikī ke hoʻokuʻu i koʻu mau maka. ʻAʻole au i ʻike i ka nui o ka ʻiʻo wahine.
Ua hoʻomaopopo iaʻu ʻo nā kino wahine wale nō aʻu i kamaʻāina maoli ai, ʻo ia koʻu iho a me ka mana hoʻolaha hoʻolaha, a ʻoiai ke hāʻawi nei ka mana hoʻolaha hoʻolaha i hoʻokahi ʻano kino wahine ('ōpiopio, lōʻihi, a hiki ʻole ka lahilahi), ʻo ia hoʻi he nani koʻu. ʻike liʻiliʻi i nā mea e hana nei ma lalo o nā lole wahine.
E ho'āʻo ana au e wehewehe i kēia i kekahi hoaaloha oʻu, a ua hoʻomāʻewaʻewa ʻo ia, "ʻAʻole ʻoe e kau nui ma ka hale haʻuki, ʻeā?"
ʻAe, ʻo ka mea ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole wau e hele i ka hale haʻuki, akā loaʻa iaʻu kāna manaʻo. Aia kekahi mau manawa e ʻike ai i kou mau kaikuahine ma ke kino. Akā, ʻo ka hele ʻana ma mua o kekahi i kekahi i loko o ke keʻena laka i kou poʻo ʻana i kāu ʻauʻau pilikino e hāʻawi i kahi ʻike pāpaʻu a ʻoi aku ka furtive o ko mākou ʻano ma lalo o ko mākou lole. "Pela i ka mea?" e nīnau paha ʻoe.
Ma ke ʻano he pilikia, ʻaʻole ia i pae ma laila me ke kaua Iraq a me ka pilikia o ka hoʻokele waiwai, akā ke komo ʻana i kahi moʻomeheu e hoʻolaha mau nei i hoʻokahi ʻano o ke kino - ke kino bila - a koi i ka pilikino a me ka noʻonoʻo e pili ana i kēlā me kēia ʻano kino. ʻaʻole maikaʻi no nā wahine. I loko o ka hammam, ʻike nā wahine a me nā kaikamahine i kā lākou i hala, i kēia manawa, a me ka wā e hiki mai ana i hoʻonohonoho ʻia i kahi ala ʻike ʻole. Hiki i kēlā me kēia wahine ke ʻimi iā ia iho i ka manawa o ka ʻelemakule. Hoʻopili ka poʻe 40 makahiki i ko lākou hoʻololi ʻana mai ke kino 20 a me 30 mau makahiki i ko lākou kūlana o kēia manawa a ua hoʻopaʻa ʻia nā makahiki he mau makahiki i kā lākou ʻano āpau.
ʻEhia o mākou nā wāhine e hoʻomanaʻo nei i ke ʻano o ka ʻōpio? Ua poina loa au a ʻike au i nā kaikamāhine he nui i nā wā ʻōpio e kau ana ma ka hammam. No ke aha e hoʻomanaʻo ai a no ke aha e mālama ai? Manaʻo wau no ka mea i loko o kā mākou moʻomeheu, pohihihi mākou i ka wā ʻōpio. Hoʻopili ʻia kā mākou mau kaikamahine ʻōpio e ka pāpaʻi ʻoihana, e kūpono ana i ka pae hoʻololi a lākou e noho ai a hoʻohana iā ia ma ke ʻano he ʻāina kūʻai momona. Ma ke ʻano he mau mākua, ua aʻo ʻia mākou e hopohopo a hopohopo e pili ana i ka mea a lākou e "komo ai" i kēia makahiki a pehea paha lākou e "kipi ai." He aha inā inā loaʻa iā mākou kahi manawa e noho pū ai me lākou a noho i mua o ko lākou hoʻololi ʻana - ʻoiai ʻo ka mālama ʻana iā ia e like me ka mea maʻamau, kēlā me kēia lā, ʻike ʻole ʻia. He aha inā inā ʻo ka hoʻololi ʻana o ka ʻōpio kekahi mea i hiki iā mākou ke hoʻomaopopo piha a nānā ʻole i ka manawa like (e like me ka ʻike ʻana i ka loli ʻana o nā kau)?
A no nā kaikamahine ʻōpio, ʻike lākou i nā wahine o nā ʻano a me nā ʻano like ʻole, me ka ʻoluʻolu loa i ko lākou kino ponoʻī a puni nā kino o nā mea ʻē aʻe. ʻAʻole kēia he makana liʻiliʻi. E hoʻohālikelike i kēlā me kā mākou moʻomeheu kahi i ʻelemakule ai nā wahine ma kahi pilikino o ka lumi ʻaʻahu, kahi a mākou e huli ai i kēia ala a ʻike i ka maikaʻi o ka hana ʻana o ka "ʻenehana hōʻemi" o ka lole ʻauʻau hou a i ʻole ke nānā ʻana i ka pale ʻana i ka pale ʻana umauma.
(ʻO ia ke kumuhana o kekahi ʻōlelo ʻē aʻe e ʻimi pono ai i ke ʻano o kahi moʻomeheu - e like me Morocco - e koi ana i nā wahine e uhi ʻia i ka lehulehu e hoʻokele i ka manawa no nā wahine e ʻoluʻolu a pili i kahi pilikino. A pehea ka moʻomeheu - e like me kā mākou ma US - paipai i nā wahine e hōʻike i nā mea āpau i ka lehulehu, akā hoʻoulu i ka atomization a me ka hoʻokūkū me kekahi i kekahi ma kahi pilikino.)
ʻO ka kipa ʻana i kēlā me kēia pule i ka hammam hāʻawi i nā wahine i kahi hiʻohiʻona ʻike ʻole o nā kino wahine ʻē aʻe, kahi mea ma ka liʻiliʻi e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i nā ʻano like ʻole o kā mākou ʻano a me ka nui a kau i ke kaʻina hana ʻelemakule i nā kikoʻī piha. ʻOi aku ma mua o kēlā, ʻoiai, he mea hōʻoluʻolu ke ʻike ʻole iā ʻoe iho i ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana i ke kino o ka bila. Akā, ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i loko o ka hui ʻana o kahi ʻano nui o nā kino, a (ke kuhi wale nei wau ma ʻaneʻi, akā me he mea lā he kuhi kūpono) no laila ke ʻike nei ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i loko o kēlā ʻano nui. ʻAʻole like me mākou i ke ao komohana nui ʻaʻole i pili no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki ke loaʻa i ka hapa nui o mākou nā ʻano maʻamau a hoʻolaha ʻia o ke kino wahine.
ʻO ka ʻike maka ma ka hammam he ʻāpana wale nō ia, akā naʻe. Aia pū kekahi ʻano nani o ka pili kino - palekana, pili, platonic, unselfconscious, pili kino piha. ʻOiai wau e kākau ana i kēlā, manaʻo wau inā wau e hana nei. He kani ... utopia. ʻO nā wahine i loko o ka moʻomeheu aʻu i ʻāpana ʻaʻole i hui pinepine a * mālama i kekahi i kekahi - me ke aloha a me ka maikaʻi loa.
Hana mākou i kā mākou maikaʻi, akā. Ke kamaʻilio nei mākou no ko mākou kino. Hoʻoponopono kekahi i ka lauoho a hana paha kekahi i kekahi. ʻOi aku paha kā mākou hana platonic i waena o mākou ma mua o nā kāne i waena o lākou iho. Kūleʻa mākou ma nā pūnaewele like http://thebellyproject.wordpress.com/ or http://theshapeofamother.com/ e hōʻike ana i nā kiʻi inoa ʻole o nā ʻōpū, waiho ʻia e nā wahine e hoʻāʻo nei e hoʻopaʻa i ko lākou kino post-partum. Hoʻomanaʻo mai kēia mau kiʻi i hoʻouna ʻia ma ka cyber ʻaʻole mākou wale nō, he mea maʻamau nā kiko kikoʻī, a he mea kakaikahi ka ʻōpū palahalaha i waena o nā poʻe maʻamau. Pane nā wāhine i nā kiʻi inoa ʻole me nā ʻōlelo kākoʻo inoa ʻole. "Nani ʻoe!" a "E wela hou ana ʻoe i ka manawa koke."
He inoa ʻole nā kiʻi. A ʻo wau wale nō a me kaʻu mea nānā kamepiula. No laila, maikaʻi ke nānā aku. A hiki iaʻu ke komo mau a hoʻohui i kaʻu mau ʻōlelo paipai. Akā, ʻoi aku koʻu makemake e komo i loko o ka ʻauʻau ākea ākea, kahi e hiki ai ke hoʻomaʻemaʻe maoli, hoʻomaha maoli, a ma ka home me kou kino.
Hiki ke kiʻi ʻia iā Cynthia Peters ma cyn.peters [at] gmail.com.